‘Tis the season to spread some festive cheer, but one woman has sparked a heated debate after suggesting that single friends and divorcees should not send festive wishes to their married friends.
A mother and wife, who post under the username @jnobles28, shared a short rant with TikTokwhere she asked users what they would do in her situation.
“If you are married, would you be okay with your husband or wife receiving a Christmas card from their divorced or single friends?” she asked.
The content creator further explained that her husband receives a Christmas card every year from a divorced friend of his, who is a woman.
“She’s a single mom and I know he’s known her for years, but I’ve never met her,” she explained.
The mother of two went on to say that the couple has known each other for years, but she has never met the woman in question.
“She’s sending him the Christmas card that was just addressed to him, so I don’t know?” she wondered, adding in a comment that the card is just a “basic” card with no personal message.
‘I just think that’s a bit strange. What do you think?’
A mother and wife, who posts under the username @jnobles28, shared a short rant on TikTok, asking users what they would do in her situation (stock image)
Users largely defended her husband’s friend, pointing out that it’s not weird to keep in touch with someone you’ve known for a long time.
‘I’ve known my male friends for over fifteen years. I would send them a Christmas card if I were married or divorced. I’ve known them longer than my husband, for Pete’s sake!’ one person exclaimed.
“I’ve been married for 23 years and I don’t supervise my husband’s friends. He had a life before me, and I’m very happy that he has people in his life who love him. I don’t care what their gender is,” another commented.
‘My mother sends about 50 Christmas cards every year. She only has a list. Not much thought goes into it. My point is it’s not that serious,” someone else replied.
‘Would it make any difference if she had a partner? Would you mind if she and her partner send a card? I don’t think she wants your man if she only sends one card a year,” someone else commented.
Others sided with the woman and said they would not be happy if they were in her position.
“I was just addressing him. I don’t think so. I wrote a return to sender and put it back in the outgoing mail,” someone else snapped,” one person wrote.
“I wouldn’t be a fan of this, but I would definitely tease my husband about his ‘other family,'” someone else joked.
The content creator went on to explain that her husband gets a Christmas card every year from a divorced friend of his, who is a woman – and she’s not happy about it (stock image)
Users largely defended her husband’s boyfriend, pointing out that it’s not weird to keep in touch with someone you’ve known for a long time
Last year, etiquette expert William Hanson shared the do’s and don’ts of sending Christmas cards.
“It’s always nice to receive something through your letterbox from your near and dear ones during the holidays, and it gives you a warm feeling inside,” William told his 1.4 million followers in an Instagram video.
“Christmas cards should be sent to everyone you want to express festive wishes to,” he adds.
‘You can send as many or as few as your wrists can handle. That said, it’s a fairly standard practice among more prolific card writers to keep a list of who you send cards to and who you send them to in turn.
‘I have a rule that if I don’t get a card from someone for three years, he or she disappears from the list, no matter how much I love him or her. You have to give to receive.’