I’m a therapist and these are the 12 things you should already know about your partner after six months together
- Jeff Guenther is a licensed counselor and marriage expert
- He listed the 12 things you need to know about a partner after six months
- Many praised the list – others panicked because they didn’t know any of them
A therapist put together 12 questions all couples should be able to answer about each other after six months of dating that sent hundreds of men and women into a panic.
Jeff Guenther, a licensed counselor with a master’s degree in marriage and family therapy, worked in crisis shelters and at a high school with at-risk students before starting his private practice.
He has since built a huge following on TikTok and Instagram where he shares tips, advice and pep talks about relationships and mental health.
“These are the 12 things you should already know about your partner six months into a relationship — and they should know about you,” said Jeff from Portland, Oregon.
“If you don’t know, these things don’t get crazy, just ask each other. These are some important basics that you’ll want to build on as you move forward in your relationship.”
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Jeff Guenther, a licensed counselor with a master’s degree in marriage and family therapy, worked in crisis support and at a high school with at-risk students before starting his private practice
1. What makes your partner laugh and cry?
2. What are they passionate about?
3. How did their family influence their growth?
4. What makes them angry?
5. Do they have spiritual beliefs and how do they influence their life choices?
6. What are their defining moments?
7. What is most important to them?
8. How would they define success?
9. What support do they need when they are stressed or sad?
10. What are they most proud of about themselves?
11. What makes them instantly light up inside?
12. How do they recharge their emotional batteries?
The video immediately caught the attention of thousands, with many admitting that they could barely answer the questions about themselves, let alone their partner.
“After six years I don’t remember anything,” one of them admitted.
Others praised him for being so helpful with his questions, and suggested a few of their own.
“Do they have any known trauma reactions or triggers, and what kind of support do they need as they head out?” one person suggested.
How do they prefer to receive criticism? As in, in the moment. Directly, or more tactfully and cautiously? Later when they are open for discussion?’ another suggested.
Jeff continued to praise other suggestions and left a final comment to calm the nerves.
“If you and your partner can answer nine out of 12 correctly, you’re on the right track,” he assured them.