What makes someone sexy?
Good question! What is sexy to one person is another’s “Are you crazy?”
But we all have an unconscious ‘sexy’ radar that automatically tunes into people who ‘have it’.
Our looks radar goes off first, scanning the hottest person in the crowd. Then the sexy radar comes into play, looking for more subtle (and sure) indicators that someone is worth talking to.
Ultimately, sexual attraction is less about looks and more about attitude and charisma: being happy with what you have and who you are.
That’s why this is the most important thing that makes someone sexy…
According to sex and relationship expert Tracey Cox, sexual attraction is less about looks than about attitude and charisma: being happy with what you have and who you are (stock image)
1. They love sex
If you like sex and people, you’re probably sexy.
People who enjoy sex are constantly subconsciously (and consciously) alert. They are always looking for sexy people and sexy things, wherever they are.
When you see someone who fits the profile, your eyes show that you find him or her attractive – even if the wedding ring on your finger prevents you from acting on it.
When people notice and admire you, they quickly take their attention. And even if they are not physically attracted to the person you are admiring, they will still take a second look to see if they are missing something.
A high libido is often the secret behind “ugly sexy” attraction. The reason why some people who don’t fit society’s expectations of beauty still get a lot of attention.
The hunger and appreciation seen in their eyes is the magic ingredient that does not depend on appearance.
2. They are enthusiastic
It’s contagious: you can’t help but smile and respond to someone who is full of life.
It doesn’t matter what your passion is, as long as you are enthusiastic and go for it.
As one man put it, “The girl in the corner, whose facial expression doesn’t change and who talks in a monotone, is not attractive, even when she’s talking about how to give a great blowjob.
“It’s the girl who’s gesticulating like crazy and talking a million miles an hour that you want. Even when she’s talking about the color of her bathroom.”
Tracey Cox (pictured) believes that people who enjoy sex and people are almost always sexy
3. Both sides match each other
The more symmetrical your face and body, the more sexually attractive you are and the more attention you get.
It’s not brainwashing by society either: even babies love symmetry.
Mother Nature is much more manipulative than social media: she constantly protects the health of the species by ensuring that those with the strongest gene pool (such as the symmetrical species) are seen as the most attractive.
Although no body is ever truly symmetrical, it helps immensely if you appear “equal.”
Female bodies are programmed to look 30 percent more symmetrical on the magical day after ovulation, the day when conception rates are highest.
People with symmetrical bodies tend to lose their virginity at a much younger age and have more sexual partners than their friends with crooked bodies.
4. They feel comfortable in their bodies
If you don’t feel sexy, you certainly won’t have any sex appeal to others.
People who don’t like their bodies do their best to hide as much of it as possible. Their shoulders slump forward, their head hangs down, their arms cross to hide their stomach. Sounds attractive, right? Not.
No one is completely happy with their body, but people who embrace their good sides and don’t get too paranoid about the bad sides exude confidence. Their body language is relaxed, open and inviting, and self-acceptance exudes a sexy vibe.
5. They make you feel like you’re the only person in the room
The ability to focus solely on the person you’re with, without looking back, checking your phone, or being distracted in any way, is a skill that is dying.
Therefore, when someone’s eyes never leave your face, the recipient feels intoxicated by the laser-sharp attention. The person who looks you straight in the eye, really listens, calls you by name, and focuses on what you’re saying wins every time.
Once you master this, you will easily outshine your bigger competitors.
When it comes to our bodies, those who embrace their good sides and don’t get too paranoid about the bad ones exude confidence — and that’s sexy (stock image)
6. They have a big mouth
Sex-obsessed beings that we are, anything that reminds us of sex turns us on.
A woman with full, shiny, red lips is arousing because her lips reflect what (he fantasizes, anyway) is hopefully happening somewhere else: the vagina also becomes fuller, moister, and darker in color when she becomes aroused.
7. They are authentic
They know who they are and are proud of it. Someone who is not afraid to express an opinion, even if it is the opposite of others, can be called cocky, arrogant or even rude, but there is one thing they will never be branded as boring.
Stand up for your beliefs and believe in yourself. We all respect and admire people who hold their heads high and fight their own battles.
According to Tracey Cox, a woman with full, shiny, red lips is arousing because her lips mimic what (he fantasizes, anyway) is hopefully happening elsewhere: the vagina also becomes ‘fuller’, moist and darker in color when she becomes aroused.
8. They are flexible
Have you ever seen someone get up after sitting for a while and walk away with stiff legs? Not exactly exciting, huh?
It’s not something you immediately think of when you wonder what makes someone sexy, but flexibility makes people look “young.”
Fluid movement is associated with physical fitness and good health, which are biologically linked to attractiveness.
People who are flexible tend to have better posture, which signals self-confidence. Self-confidence is another important factor in sexual attraction.
9. They pretend to be cool (but not too cool)
When someone tells us we are pretty, funny or smart, it has the best effect the first time we say it.
If you keep harping on about it, not only will the compliment be watered down, but you will also get the opposite reaction of the intended one.
Instead of the person liking you, he/she will find you annoying.
10. They touch a lot
Never, ever underestimate the power of touch. The person who gives a real hug, who puts a concerned hand on your arm when you’re upset, who gives a firm handshake to say “Congratulations!” uses warm, sexy gestures that make them seem approachable.
If you want to connect with someone directly, there is no better way to do it than through touch. The briefest, smallest touch can have an electric effect on how someone feels about you.
If you are stingy with your affection, others will assume you are cold, hard to get to know, and stiff. You don’t want any of these adjectives applied to you, do you?
Money usually means that the person is well dressed, well groomed, physically healthy and educated, which often equates to high sexual attractiveness (stock image)
11. They are rich
No surprises here. It may not lead to happiness, but it will certainly make you more sexually attractive.
Why? For starters, financial success increases self-confidence and self-esteem, qualities that are universally attractive.
Money usually means the person is well dressed, well groomed, physically fit and educated. They can do sexy things: like surprise you with first class tickets to the hottest party in Ibiza, a reservation at the sexiest, most desirable new restaurant.
Wealth is associated with high social status – and power is the ultimate aphrodisiac for some! Success usually means that the person is ambitious, another personality trait that contributes to their appeal.
- Find Tracey’s product lines, Edge and Supersex, at lovehoney.co.uk. For her podcast, more information on sex and relationships and her books, visit traceycox.com.