- Taylor Palmby is a New York-based mental health counselor and content creator
- She regularly shares advice on her TikTok account
- She recently revealed that you should stay curious at the beginning of dating
A therapist has shared her ‘game-changing’ tip for reframing your thinking when it comes to dating.
Taylor Palmby is a New York-based mental health counselor and content creator who regularly shares advice on her TikTok account, where she has more than 9,100 followers.
Recently, the expert took to the video sharing platform to teach people how to become more “curious” when it comes to meeting someone new.
In a viral video, which has been viewed more than 47,800 times so far, she explained the ‘super simple trick’ that will help you see dating in a different light – and added that you should always tell yourself that you still You’re always learning someone so you don’t rush into it.
A therapist has shared her ‘game-changing’ tip for reframing your thinking when it comes to dating
Taylor Palmby is a New York-based mental health counselor and content creator who regularly shares advice on her TikTok account, where she has more than 9,100 followers
She captioned the clip: “This is one of my best dating tips!! Let me know if it helps!’
‘Here’s a super simple switch that will change the way you think about dating.
“We don’t say ‘I like this person’ or ‘I love this person’ until we’ve been on a significant number of dates with them,” she said at the beginning of the clip.
The therapist explained that you should use the phrase “I’m curious about this person” instead.
She explained that convincing yourself that you like or love someone too early causes your brain to think that they are always kind, funny, or caring, instead of identifying that these are just signs that they are a good person. .
‘A person may show signs early on that they are friendly, playful or intelligent, but when we tell them they are, our brains stop integrating information that says otherwise.
“And it’s vital that we don’t let that information get in until we’re in a more committed and safer place with them,” she explained.
Taylor added that you should “gather data” before making a decision about someone’s personality.
People flooded the comments section, praising the mental health counselor
She explained that you should never create your “own story” when meeting someone new.
“Let them show you, let them write the story. So until they do, until you get to know them, stay curious,” she added at the end of the clip.
People flooded the comments section, praising the mental health counselor.
One person said: ‘What great advice.’
Someone else wrote: ‘That’s good. Keep emotions under control. Trust but verify and be curious.”
‘This is brilliant… Thanks for this! “I collect data. I’m curious.” No conclusions have been drawn. My eyes remain wide open,” one user added.
One user said: ‘I love this.’