My new boyfriend earns 3 times more than me but still expects me to go halves on everything – is he tight or am I being unfair?
Woman is warned her new boyfriend is ‘tight’ after she reveals he makes three times more than she does and still expects her to pay half of everything
A mom has sparked a fierce argument after revealing that her boyfriend, who earns three times more than she does, wants her to pay half of everything in the relationship.
Go to the UK parenting forum Mumsnet, the anonymous woman explained that she had been in a relationship with a man who is almost 50.
She said that even though he earns a lot more than she does, he still expects her to pay half of everything, including dinner and gas costs.
She said she found the behavior strange and asked other users of the forum if she should be wary of his way of thinking.
The community was divided, some saying she should pay her way – and others saying it sounded tight.
A British woman has sparked debate online after revealing that her boyfriend expects her to pay half of everything – despite earning three times her salary (stock image)
The woman shared the post, wondering if she was “dishonest” or if she should be “wary” of the man’s behavior
In the original post, the woman wrote, “I have been dating this man; he was almost 50 and making three times my salary.
“He always makes sure we pay equal amounts, but sometimes I pay more because of this.
“For example, he pays for dinner, but I have to pay for two lunches to make up for it.”
She added that they recently left in a tent and he asked for half of the gas money.
But she explained that she always drove to his house and never asked for gas money.
The woman added that she often treated friends and expected nothing in return.
She asked the community if she should be wary of this behavior or if she was being dishonest – and received mixed responses.
One of them wrote, “If you’re going to split the bill, why not split the bill?” All uncomplicated and there is no need to keep track of who pays for lunch next time.’
Many of the posters thought new dates should split the bill and go Dutch – but some said he went too far
Another wrote, “Going Dutch is fair enough in a new relationship. Just be careful that you only cover your own costs and not his.’
However, many thought the man was being unreasonable.
One of them wrote, “I’m a big proponent of self-paying on dates…but this is stingy and penny pinching.”
“Asking for gas money when you make three times the salary – no thanks. Sounds like he’s going to be a nuisance later on.’
Another wrote: ‘Sounds a bit cramped indeed, depends on his attitude/attitude about it.
“It should be a more informal and familiar feeling than a regulated who pays what.”
Many distrusted the man and said he was close – and some said he should come and visit her house
Another said, “It’s fine to pay both your way, but I think this is going a bit far.”
While a fourth was more blunt, writing, “I’ve never asked anyone for gas money in my life.
“This is really tight.”
One of them was also very suspicious of the man, thinking he might be trying to get money from the woman.
She wrote: ‘I would choose to pay your half to the penny.
‘You no longer have to buy lunch twice to make up for your shortfall.
“But I’d keep an eye on him to see what plan he has to get money from you and if he has any other tricks up his sleeve.”
Some pointed out that it was also strange that she always went to his house.
One of them wrote, “I wouldn’t expect him to pay you for gas to visit, but why doesn’t he make the effort to come to your house from time to time?”
While another wrote, “Stop driving to his house and see how much effort he puts into seeing you.”