- Woman, 24, wonders if she’s an ‘asshole’ for refusing to be a surrogate mother
- She explained that her lesbian mothers, 67, want her to carry their child
- The anonymous woman said she was adopted when she was 14
A 24-year-old wonders if she’s an ‘asshole’ for refusing to be a surrogate for her lesbian mothers.
The unidentified woman took to Reddit to reveal that her lesbian mothers, both 67, wanted another child.
The 24-year-old explained that her mothers adopted her when she was 14 years old, but due to their age they can no longer adopt. So they turned to their daughter for help.
In a thread titled ‘Am I the hole?the 24-year-old wondered if she was wrong for refusing to be their surrogate.
A 24-year-old wonders if she’s an ‘asshole’ for refusing to be a surrogate for her lesbian moms (stock image)
The unidentified woman took to Reddit to reveal that her lesbian mothers, both 67, wanted another child
At the beginning of the post, the 24-year-old woman explained, “I’m (24F) and my parents are both (67F) lesbians. They adopted me when I was fourteen. I grew up close with them.”
She went on to explain that her parents had always talked about wanting another child, revealing that at the age of 21, her mothers often “joked” that she could have a baby for them.
She explained: ‘When I reached the age of 21, they started pushing the idea on me – initially as a joke – of raising their next child myself, while I was out of the picture, as no adoption center would allow them. to adopt. no children due to their age and one of my mother’s prison sentences.’
The 24-year-old noted that the comments had always made her “uneasy” and that she had fiercely rejected the idea of ever being their surrogate.
Then, three years after her mothers first broached the idea, they invited their daughter to dinner.
She said: ‘Last week they called me to come for dinner, I accepted as I hadn’t seen them for seven months.
‘When I arrived they started showing me baby clothes and pictures of me as a baby, saying how much they wanted one.
‘I laughed it off. They then sat me down and said, “I want you to have our next child, we already have a donor and we can’t get pregnant anymore because of our age, we would pay for it in full.”
The woman admitted that she was completely shocked and immediately refused, adding that she was disgusted that they would even ask her.
People flooded the comments section and rushed to the 24-year-old’s defense, slamming her mothers for asking her to carry their child
The 24-year-old stormed out of dinner as her mothers told her she was ungrateful because they had “done so much for her.”
At the end of the post, she wondered if she was the “jerk” for refusing to be their surrogate.
People flooded the comments section and rushed to the 24-year-old’s defense, slamming her mothers for asking her to carry their child.
One person said: ‘Not the hole. That’s gross. There is a reason an adoption agency won’t adopt them anymore and it’s not about age. Your parents sound like horrible people. No contact sounds like something you should take into account for your safety.’
Someone else commented: ‘Suggest they become foster parents or volunteer with children.’
One user added: “Are you sure your parents just adopted you so they could have a cheaper option to eventually have a new baby?”
“Ew,” wrote another.
Someone else said: ‘Not the hole. They are sick and need therapy.”
‘This is disgusting. Not that hole,” someone else added.
‘Not the hole. So they adopted you at 14 so you could make a baby when you were old enough? They treat you like a breeding animal, like a dog. This is so creepy and wrong,” someone else added.
“Ew, that’s so gross,” said one user.