A woman has been called crazy and stubborn after breaking up with her long-term boyfriend when he bought a puppy against her wishes.
The 24-year-old woman and her boyfriend of almost five years, who is also 24, moved in together in May.
She openly admits that she doesn’t like dogs and “doesn’t understand the hype,” while he loves them, especially pugs.
So she knew that one day they would have to have a difficult conversation about adding a four-legged friend to the family.
That happened a month ago.
She wrote on Reddit explaining to her boyfriend that she’s not ready for a dog yet, but could be talked into getting one someday — but probably not a pug.
She said she really doesn’t think they’re cute. He grew up with them and is obsessed.
Since the conversation, her partner has sent her photos of pugs for sale, but she has ignored them.
A woman broke up with her boyfriend because he bought a pug without asking her, despite knowing she doesn’t like dogs
‘Then he told me last Monday that he had arranged a visit with a breeder to look at pugs on Friday. “I’m starting to cry my eyes out because I don’t want a dog right now,” she said.
‘I make it clear that I am not ready for this and that I do not want a dog at this time. I think he might just go and have a look. “I look him dead in the eye and say please don’t buy one, I’m not okay with this,” she added.
And she didn’t think he would.
Then a puppy gate appeared in her house and he asked her for help moving things “to make room for the puppy.”
‘I thought he was joking until I started asking more and more questions about it and found out he wasn’t. I burst into tears in front of my entire family. Right now I’m also angry about the fact that he didn’t tell me all day, disrespected me and said I wasn’t ready,” she said.
She broke up with him over the issue and he called her “irrational” and dishonest for not giving the dog a chance.
“His whole family thinks I’m stubborn and crazy,” she said.
But the people of Reddit had her back.
“It’s definitely worth a breakup, and I say this as a dog person. A dog is a big commitment and you should both be excited about getting one. The problem here is that you couldn’t have been clearer and he’s completely trolling you,” one woman said.
“It’s also okay that this is a deal breaker. If my boyfriend didn’t want a dog, I’d get a dog and a new boyfriend,” another woman added.
‘Replace the word with baby and hopefully everyone will see the problem. He is wrong,” said another.
“If his whole family thinks she’s irrational and crazy, I can see where he gets that from,” another added.
The woman had told her boyfriend that she might get a dog one day, but never a pug
Others warned her against patching things up with her ex-boyfriend.
‘There is a power game being played here. Be prepared for much more. If you want to make a move, now is the time. He showed you who he is,” one woman said.
“Forget the dog, you said you weren’t comfortable with something and he did it anyway. Then he called you crazy for being angry about it. He could be dangerous,” said another.
‘You’re only 24! This is the stage where you figure out what the adult you wants from life. What are your values, goals etc. This is also where you find out what you are looking for in a life partner, and this guy is not it,” another suggested.
Others suggested it’s the friend who is delusional for wanting a pug in the first place.
“I don’t think he’s ready for the costs either, so now add the money problems to that. If he has to “save for a pen,” which amounts to $50? How is he going to afford a pug that is VERY likely to need vet visits and surgeries and special diets and shampoos because even if they are well bred, they are poorly bred,” one woman said.
Others revealed they were in the same position.
‘My mother wanted a dog, my father didn’t. “She got it anyway and it ended up in hospital for both my father and I several times, years apart,” said one young woman.
‘I was in your position. My fiance wanted a dog. We lived together and I already had a dog and she had a cat and fish. I was adamant that I didn’t want to bring another pet into the mix. She promised me that her children would take care of the dog. I didn’t believe her and said no anyway.
‘She came home with a dog. I was furious. She claimed everything would be fine because she was sending it to a month-long luxury obedience camp. We guess what. When the dog came back, no one kept up with the training and the dog was a hyperactive nightmare,” said another.
Ultimately, they left their partner and her children about it.
The young woman said her family is supportive and doesn’t understand why anyone would buy a dog without their partner’s approval.