Jessica Alba revealed that she and her daughter Honor, 15, went to therapy after bickering too much.
The star said she asked for help when she felt she was at the end of her rope: “I thought, ‘I don’t want to live like this,'” she said.
About the new issue of Really simple magazine, Jessica extolled the virtues of therapy, while acknowledging that “it’s a process and I’m not perfect.”
She said she decided to get help when “Honor was probably 11 and we were fighting all the time about stupid things.”
The 42-year-old film added that 12-year-old Haven was also in session with them.
Ultimately, Jessica was able to improve some of her own behavior and Honor found it easier to understand that her mother was “just being a parent.”
Jessica Alba revealed that she and her daughter Honor, 15, went to therapy after arguing too much: “I thought, ‘I don’t want to live like this,'” she said
In the new issue of Real Simple magazine, Jessica extolled the virtues of therapy while acknowledging that “it’s a process and I’m not perfect.”
The 42-year-old movie star started investigating about four years ago, along with her two daughters, Honor and 12-year-old Haven
Jessica recalled, “I thought, I don’t want to live like this. This is not funny. I didn’t want there to be a wedge between us.’
She explained, “As her mother, if I say something, she will hear it as an argument or me trying to control her. I wish there was someone who could explain things in a way that I couldn’t.’
She said: ‘What I said to Honor was, “I want to be a better parent to you, and this is your forum to basically talk about anything I do that gets on your nerves.”
The analyst helped soften Honor’s perception of her mother’s behavior, but also helped Jessica change the behavior herself.
‘It brought me under control. Like, “Yes, I totally do. And I’m sorry. I’m going to work on that.” It also gave her a bit of perspective: that I’m not the bad guy; I’m just a parent. She comes out the other side and I’m still here,” Jessica said.
“I just wanted to get to that point, and it worked.” And the therapist showed me that it’s normal for children to disagree with their parents, and that being a parent isn’t always about being right or rational in that moment,” the household magnate said. ‘I’m not going to be frontal, it’s a process and I’m not perfect.’
According to Jessica, therapy is ‘a valuable tool to help you process your feelings. That’s what this issue is about!’
The process “lets you talk about what’s going on with you and brings to light the things that don’t feel the best or might be confusing, or things that make you happy,” the actress opined in the magazine.
Ultimately, Jessica was able to improve some of her own behavior and Honor found it easier to understand that her mother was “just a parent.”
She explained: ‘As her mother, if I say something, she will hear it as an argument or me trying to control her’
She said, “What I said to Honor was, ‘I want to be a better parent to you, and this is your forum to basically talk about anything I do that gets on your nerves.'”
Jessica explained that “the therapist showed me that it is normal for children to disagree with their parents, and that being a parent is not always about being right or rational in the moment”
“And just by unpacking it, you can process it, and then you can repeat good behavior and find the behavior that you want to change.” What a great resource for everyone.”
Last year, Jessica announced that she and her daughters had initially gone to therapy together, but had now found their way to separate couches.
‘We don’t do it together anymore. They do it alone,” the mother of three said People magazine. “They’re older now.”
Jessica is married to Cash Warren, and in addition to their two daughters Honor and Haven, they share a six-year-old son named Hayes.
Cash, the son of Hill Street Blues actor Michael Warren, met Jessica when she was working as an assistant director on her critically destroyed 2005 film Fantastic Four.
They decided to get married spontaneously in a Beverly Hills courthouse one day in 2008, while Jessica was heavily pregnant with Honor.
A few years ago, the couple candidly discussed a psychologically awkward moment they experienced with their youngest daughter.
On an episode of her YouTube show Getting Honest, Jessica revealed that she was left in tears when Haven walked in and Cash had sex.
Jessica is married to a man named Cash Warren, and in addition to their two daughters Honor and Haven, they share a six-year-old son named Hayes
On an episode of her YouTube show Getting Honest, Jessica revealed that she was left in tears when Haven walked in on her and Cash had sex.
“It was the worst,” Cash said. ‘We liked to spend five minutes in our bedroom laughing and saying, “I can’t believe it, we just ruined our daughter! We ruined her!”‘
‘I started crying! “I started crying,” Jessica said, explaining that she then called Cash’s sister Koa, who is “so good at helping us through challenges.”
Cash shared that “even” his sister “had no advice” — and Jessica noted that “by the time we called Koa, Haven had already texted her.”
An “emergency meeting” ensued for the family at which Cash said, “Haven, we bet this is the last time you walk into our room without knocking?”
The result is that ‘she is now correct. It was like she had learned her lesson!’ Cash said laughing as Jessica repeated that she was “100% crying.”