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I’m 20 years old and I don’t want to end up ‘bitter’ like so many people in their 30s and 40s. How do I avoid it?
A woman in her 20s asked the internet for advice on how not to ‘get sour’ like those in her 30s and 40s.
Layah Heilpern from Dubai led Twitter to ask older social media users for advice, however, may have ruffled a few feathers.
Some people said she has a “disrespectful mindset,” while others were happy to dish out some wisdom, advising her to “set strong boundaries” and “focus on herself.”
In his tweet, he wrote: ‘I see a lot of bitter people in their 30s and 40s. What advice would you give people like me in my 20s so we don’t end up like this?’
Layah Heilpern, from Dubai, asked the internet for advice on how not to “get sour” like those in their 30s and 40s.
The question quickly racked up over a million views and gained over 27,000 likes with many people running to the comments.
Some offered some good advice telling the marketing consultant to ‘focus on herself’.
One person said, ‘Focus on yourself so you have no one else to blame but yourself for all your successes and failures.
“I think the bitterness comes from a lack of awareness of who they want to be and where they want to go in life.”
She took to Twitter to ask older social media users for advice, however, she may have ruffled a few feathers.
The question quickly racked up over 5 million views and gained over 27,000 likes with many people running to the comments.
Another said: ‘100% focus on yourself. Don’t follow the narrative that you have to step up and repeat your family’s life before you.
‘Start investing early. Don’t drink alcohol. Have friends who have a growth mindset. Find a partner who has the same values and is a hard worker.’
Others agreed saying: ‘Life is short. Focus 100% on yourself. You are a product of your environment. If you are not happy, change your environment.
‘This includes people and possibly family members. I have had to sacrifice many negative things to be content and happy with life.
While a fourth wrote: ‘I just turned 30 and had my second baby in July. With my hubs 10 years almost. Focus on you first, forever.
Some people offered some good advice telling the marketing consultant to “focus on herself.”
‘If you’re not solid you can’t help anyone or be a good partner. Yes, worry about them, but first make sure you’re right. Or you can lose yourself.
However, others weren’t as forthcoming, saying he had a “disrespectful mentality” after his response to one person’s advice upset many.
One person wrote: “Don’t confuse internet personalities with worthwhile advice.”
To which Layah replied: ‘Did you have internet personalities in your day?’
While many saw the funny side of Layah’s response, it also rattled some cages of people born in the ’90s who grew up with the internet.
One person wrote: ‘Haha, next piece of advice: don’t get sucked into thinking your generation invented the wheel and there was nothing else before it 🙂 (this is serious: I see a lot of 20 year olds calling anyone older than them a “boomer” and missing 40 years of relevant historical context).’
However, others weren’t as forthcoming, saying he had a “disrespectful mentality” after his response to one person’s advice upset many.
Another quipped: ‘In your day? I am 42 years old. Yes, we had internet personalities 20 years ago. Cars too.
Someone else wrote: ‘This is what I’m talking about. The rudeness of your answer annoys people. You realize that your generation did not invent the Internet. People were ‘Gooling’ him back in 1998!’
While another said: ‘In our days? Who do you think created internet personalities? 30s/40s. You and this mentality is what happens to us. Advice; be better than the disrespectful mentality and close the gap.’
A fifth wrote: “And respect for other people…we had a lot of that.”