I ruined our family holiday by getting a stomach bug and my husband is furious
A woman has stunned people online after revealing that her partner is furious with her for ruining their family holiday by getting sick.
The anonymous woman took to the UK parenting forum Mumsnet to ask people’s opinion on her situation.
In her post, she revealed that she felt “the worst mother” after falling ill on her second-ever family vacation to an amusement park resort with her husband and children aged one and three.
She explained that she was incapacitated by vomiting and a fever, but far from being sympathetic, her partner was furious, claiming she had “abandoned them.”
She wrote on the forum asking if she should feel guilty for ruining the expensive vacation, leading people to point out how unreasonably her partner has been behaving.
A woman has revealed that her partner is furious with her – because she fell ill with a virus during a family holiday (stock image)
The post said, ‘So family of four on holiday, famous theme park holiday, day two and I’ve caught a virus, fever, weakness, the runs.
Man is furious with me. Our kids are one and three so basically need a stroller. I persevered today, but now I can’t physically move and it’s dinner time.
“While the kids were asleep I’ve had the biggest outbursts, telling them how much I’ve let them down, how we’re not allowed to go on family vacations anymore because I ruined these and I always screw things up.” ‘
She continued, “We’ve only had one before and he threw a tantrum after the boot got stuck, he blamed it on me but he’d actually grabbed my scarf in the lock.”
“Twice already I feel terrible because I may have ruined an expensive vacation and then feel physically terrible.”
She went on to explain that after her partner gave her caffeine-containing painkillers before bed, she had been unable to sleep and thus felt even worse because she was so tired.
The post concluded, “I literally feel like the worst mom, don’t I? He had to take the children to a restaurant alone. I hope if I rest I’ll feel better tomorrow.β
Many respondents simply pointed out how unreasonable the partner was by suggesting that the poster had become unwell on purpose.
In her post on Mumsnet, the anonymous woman asked if she was the “worst mother” for leaving her children with their father while she was ill
One of them wrote, “Unless there’s a huge drip you ate out of the bin or got sick on purpose, you’re not being unreasonable.” Not at all. The only unreasonable one is your husband.
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Another concurred, writing: “Did you explain to him that no one is deliberately unwell?
βOne time we went away for a long overdue family vacation and my husband got sick and had to put himself to bed.
Was I disappointed? Yes. Did I give him a warning? No. What good would it have done?
βI wouldn’t vacation with your husband again because I don’t think I’d stay in a marriage with him after such an outburst.
Not what you need if you’re already sick.’
Many respondents assured the poster that she had done nothing wrong by getting sick – and that it was unreasonable for her partner to suggest that she
A third added: ‘I can’t even imagine a decent human being behaving like him. This would mean the end of the relationship for me.’
Another respondent said: ‘You are unreasonable to marry someone like him! Hope you feel better. Hydration salts can help?’
Meanwhile, a fifth wrote: ‘Chances are he catches it and gets the same in the next few days. Just be sure NOT to show any sympathy. This is not how normal couples behave towards each other, I hope starting this thread makes you realize that.’
Many other respondents shared a stronger view, with some suggesting that the partner’s behavior indicated abuse.
A number of forum users suggested that the partner sounds abusive and that the poster should consider ending the relationship
One of them wrote: ‘He shows you no love, care or attention. None of this is your fault. He should take care of you, not blame you. Honestly, he sounds awful.’
Another more candid forum user added, “He’s rude and plain insulting. People get sick, it’s just annoying for you that it all happened while on vacation. You can be blamed for a lifetime for every setback.’
And a third wrote, “I understand it’s a disappointment, but he’s insulting β tell him to do one.”
In a similar vein, a fourth commented, “Jeez β when you’re home, line up your ducks and away from this awful man.”
And a fifth said, ‘I hope you feel better soon. When you get home, you know what to do.’