Bride calls out wedding guest’s ‘disrespectful’ RSVP: ‘This is not how invitations work’

A bride-to-be became annoyed with a family friend after she added an extra guest to her invitation without asking first.

The bride said she had agreed to allot four seats to the guest and her family.

However, upon receiving the RSVP card, the bride noticed that the guest had written “4 + baby” in pink pen in the blank space provided.

Among the dietary requirements, the guest also added, “Don’t worry about (man) with his celiac disease. He will eat before the wedding – and the baby will eat from my plate.”

The bride shared an image of the RSVP on Facebook and wrote, “Anyone else dealing with ridiculous RSVPs? I guess I should have been clearer, but for some backstory, this is a family friend on my fiancé’s side.”

‘She has children from three different men, including her current husband. So I asked her how many she thought would come and she told me there were four, including her one-year-old baby,” the bride continued.

‘She only told me her, a daughter (from her previous relationship), current husband and the daughter they have together. So I gave her four.”

The bride was frustrated when she saw the sneaky move of the guest.

“She got her husband’s child involved from a previous relationship and I don’t even know her husband well enough to have HIS child come from someone else,” the bride said.

‘She never told me the child came with them. I’m just annoyed.

‘I know most venues and places don’t consider less than two as a ‘seating’ or count towards attendance, but still the thought of it. Just annoyed. There’s nothing I can do now.’

Many shared advice on how they would handle the situation.

“I would call this guy and make it very clear who is invited. The bride is not wrong, but the guest is also wrong for assuming there is room for everyone she wants to bring,” one person wrote.

Sharing an image on Facebook, the bride was stunned and wrote: ‘Is anyone else dealing with ridiculous RSVPs? I guess I should have been more clear, but for some backstory, this is a family friend on my fiance’s side’ (stock image)

“Generally speaking, I would still have a conversation with your fiancé and talk to him. It’s disrespectful and rude to do that,” said another.

Others, however, were on the guest’s side.

‘Yes, if you invite the family, you invite the whole family. If you didn’t want kids there you should have said so,” one person wrote.

“It’s not a child-free wedding, and it would be very unkind to welcome all but one child into that family. Seriously rude,” another added.

“When the bride originally called, it was an open invitation. So the guest assumed that. It would be rude to take it back now, especially considering the reasoning! That child is just as much a part of the family as the other children.’

‘I’m assuming she addressed the envelope to the family and if so, the whole family is invited. I would think it’s weird to say, ‘All your kids except that one are invited because how dare you have a blended family,'” said another.

One encouraged the bride to tell her guest that there were only four seats available.

‘You will need to contact her directly to explain the child policy. She might assume that because her other kids were invited, it would be fine,” one person said.

“I think if you call her to clear the air and are honest and kind about it, she has no reason to be upset.” I always respect the wishes of the bridal couple when it comes to child-free weddings.’