I’m a therapist and here are three things you can do to SAVE a marriage if you’re tempted to CHEAT
- Lauren LaRusso, 38, from Connecticut, is an infidelity specialist
- She went viral after she shared her list of “things to do instead of having an affair.”
- Critics thought her therapist’s advice would only lead to a divorce
A therapist has revealed how to avoid being unfaithful when tempted to cheat and save your marriage.
Lauren LaRusso, 38, of Connecticut, is an infidelity specialist who offers “solution-focused consultation” to individuals and couples who struggle with cheating in their relationships.
Known as ‘The business consultant,’ she has over 21,000 followers Instagramwhere she lays out the causes and consequences of infidelity.
LaRusso went viral after she shared her list of “three things to do instead of having an affair” — and many found the advice surprising.
Lauren LaRusso, 38, a therapist from Connecticut, went viral after she shared her list of ‘three things to do instead of having an affair’
Known as ‘The Affair Consultant’, the infidelity specialist offers ‘solution-oriented advice’ to individuals and couples struggling with cheating in their relationships
“Feeling attracted to other people, even if you’re married or in a committed relationship, is normal. After all, we’re not dead yet,” she began.
“But if you find yourself tempted to get out of your marriage and have an affair or be unfaithful, take that as a serious warning sign for your marriage.”
Instead of acting impulsively, she suggested preventive measures to help you get to the root of your desire to cheat and make your relationship stronger.
“You can go to your partner and use it as a wake-up call,” she explained. “Say something like, ‘I think our marriage is in jeopardy. Let’s talk about how I feel.’
“Ask to talk openly with each other and explore why you feel this way, and what vulnerabilities exist in your marriage,” she added.
The therapist also advised ask your spouse or partner to go to couples therapy, and say a “third.” can provide a safe and neutral space to explore any issues, needs or desires.”
“Ask yourself what you need and want and what you’re looking for outside of marriage,” she said.
“All three of these options are a lot healthier and definitely more productive and less destructive than having an affair,” she concluded.
LaRusso advised talking to your spouse or partner about your feelings and considering seeing a couples therapist
“Ask yourself what you need and want and what you’re looking for outside of marriage,” she concluded.
LaRusso’s video has been viewed more than 1.1 million times, but she faced backlash from critics who thought it was the “stupidest piece of advice ever.”
LaRusso’s video has been viewed more than 1.1 million times and received hundreds of comments, but not everyone was impressed by the tips.
“Once you say any of these three things in a relationship, it’s doomed,” one stressed.
“You forgot number 4, which is burying your feelings about being attracted to someone else with a shovel and then burying the shovel,” someone else replied.
“Or you can be an adult and control your urges. What’s wrong with people?’ another added.
There were also a number of men who insisted their wives would be furious if she admitted they were thinking cheating.
“Good advice, but how do men do 1 and 2 without their wives stabbing us in the face?” a man asked.
“My marriage wouldn’t have lasted a month if I’d told my wife every time I wanted to sleep with a new girl at work,” someone else commented.
“All steps lead to husband’s death,” claimed another.