A young woman has been criticised as an ‘over-the-top warning sign’ after she revealed a list of instructions on how she wants her boyfriend to propose.
She shared a document titled “Proposal” with several instructions, including a request to propose in private, but while they are traveling.
“You know I hate being in front of large groups of people, especially in a public place,” she said. online.
She also demanded an after-party with her family and friends, saying she wanted to celebrate just the two of them as they were on holiday at the time of the incident.
The list included hiring a photographer and keeping him or her ‘hidden’ during the big moment.
“Before the speech, say something sweet and from your heart,” she said. “If you write it down, it’s helpful because even if you’re nervous, you’ll know what to say and I can keep it forever.”
The woman also chose a proposal planner that she recommended via Instagram.
Hundreds of people criticized her list, calling her a “terrible” friend for expecting so much from her.
“I hope he leaves you. No one deserves this kind of micro-managing in a relationship. I can’t even imagine what your idea of a ‘perfect’ wedding would be,” one person said.
A young woman has been criticised as a ‘huge red flag’ after she revealed her list of instructions on how she wants her boyfriend to propose
“If you have to decide how your boyfriend proposes to you, you don’t trust him. That means you don’t love him and shouldn’t marry him,” another added.
“This is so unromantic and creepy. He deserves better,” one woman wrote.
“Okay, but would it feel like it came from the heart if you literally gave him instructions on a silver platter?” someone asked.
Another said, “Some women want to get married. Some women just want a wedding. This is the last one.”
But a few people actually thought it was “sweet” of the woman to be clear about her expectations.
“Some girls are just planners who date/marry partners who aren’t planners,” said one. “I’m a planner and my boyfriend doesn’t like to plan things unless he’s 100 percent sure I’d like it (and even then he’s not sure). When the time comes, I’ll probably just secretly send him a list of things I like or drop hints.”
“This is brilliant,” said one woman. “My boyfriend needs all the help he can get.”
“That’s actually really sweet. It’s not demanding at all and exactly what would make it perfect for her,” said another. “It’s not even detailed and it’s just a matter of [boyfriend].
“I made an entire PowerPoint presentation about my ring preference and proposal,” one commenter said.