Woman sparks furious debate after revealing she’s REFUSING to go on vacation with her ‘disabled’ friend after previous nightmare getaway… so, who do YOU think is in the wrong?
A woman has revealed she refuses to go on holiday again with her disabled friend after their nightmare getaway.
The unnamed woman posted her riddle on the website Am I the hole? subreddit, in which she explains that she recently went on vacation with a childhood friend of hers who is disabled, but has no intention of doing it again.
The woman explained that she and her friend, who she called Ashley, have a long history. They have known each other since their teens and are now both in their thirties.
“We were planning to go on a quick vacation to the city together, which was Ashley’s idea,” the woman explained in the Reddit post.
The Redditor explained that her friend has fibromyalgia, which means she is in pain and often exhausted (stock image)
The unnamed woman explained her situation on the Am I the A**hole subreddit to gauge reaction to her decision
‘We planned this over a year in advance to stay for three nights.’
She explained that her friend suffers from fibromyalgia, which according to the Mayo Clinic – is a condition characterized by widespread musculoskeletal pain that is associated with fatigue, sleep, memory and mood problems, and makes some of the activities they wanted to participate in difficult.
“The actual vacation was okay, but I found being around Ashley stressful,” the woman explained.
“She brought an extreme amount of stuff (she brought seven outfits, different types of hairdryers and a bunch of other stuff that just wasn’t necessary) and was always complaining about how heavy her bags were,” she continued.
‘She insisted on taking long walks around the city but would get tired and tell us to take a taxi home because she couldn’t walk back.’
The woman continued to say that things reached a breaking point on the way home from their weekend trip when Ashley had a meltdown and caused a scene at the train station.
She explained that Ashley was told a wheelchair would not be available for her as she had difficulty walking to her platform.
“(The staff said) they were all used and asked if she had booked help,” the woman said. “She didn’t.”
Train staff told Ashley that a seat should be available ‘in about an hour’ – but that wasn’t soon enough for her, with the shocked friend saying Ashley ‘lost her cool’.
“Ashley (yelled) at them and said she was going to miss her train, and she sat on the floor,” the woman recalled. ‘I tried to calm her down, but it was just no use. She was very insulting and swearing at them, it was so embarrassing.”
Redditors didn’t hold back when they assured the woman she wasn’t in the wrong and said Ashely shouldn’t use her disability as an excuse
When they finally got home, Ashley asked the woman if she wanted to go on a similar vacation next year – to which she quickly replied “no.”
“I told her no thank you,” the woman said. ‘I tried to explain to her that after our experience I think it would be better if we didn’t go on holiday together.
“Ashley is mad at me now and said I’m competent, but I’m having a hard time putting up with how disorganized she is when it comes to her own needs,” she further explained.
Although Ashley wasn’t happy with the situation, Reddit users agreed with the original poster and said her friend needed to know how to take care of her own needs and not rely on other people.
“I rolled my eyes when I started reading this because I also have fibromyalgia and immediately changed my mind,” one person wrote. “Your friends’ fibro has nothing to do with your friend spending her energy inappropriately and then taking it out on others, it’s all happening because she’s an asshole.”
“She blames her illness for making her more of an asshole and making the rest of us look bad.”
Many echoed the same sentiment: that Ashley’s disorganization isn’t anyone else’s problem.
“If she knows she only has a limited amount of energy, she should plan ahead and book what is needed to enjoy life,” one user advised.
‘If that means that you have to reserve a wheelchair in advance at the airport, then so be it. If this means taking a taxi to your destination and walking back to your accommodation, so be it.
“Friend doesn’t take responsibility for her own well-being and throws tantrums,” they continued. “I wouldn’t travel with her again either.”