Woman left by her fiancé bursts into tears as she confesses the one mistake she made that led to the relationship’s end: ‘Learn from me’
- Heartbroken woman revealed the one mistake she made with her ex-fiancé
- She encouraged other people to put themselves in their partner’s shoes
A heartbroken woman has revealed the one piece of advice she wishes someone had given her before a huge argument led to her fiancé breaking off their engagement.
Cam was previously in a loving relationship with a partner she thought she would be with forever.
However, the pair continued to cover up petty squabbles and recurring issues in hopes that they would sort themselves out.
The couple was eventually brought to a halt with no willingness to make sacrifices or compromise on their point of view.
After the relationship ended, Cam realized that she should have put her feelings aside and put herself in her partner’s mind.
A heartbroken woman has revealed the one piece of advice she wished someone gave her before she got into a huge argument that led to her fiancé breaking off their engagement
The American woman shared her advice in a video in the hopes of preventing other people from experiencing a similar loss.
“If you’re in a relationship with someone you want to be with forever, you need to listen to this so you don’t make the same mistakes I did and lose that person.
No relationship is perfect, every relationship has its issues, quarrels and problems.
“Sometimes those are recurring issues that just never got resolved — but when you’re fighting and you can’t figure out why you can’t get on the same page, this is what you do.”
Cam asked other people in relationships to put their feelings aside for a moment and think about their partner.
“This isn’t about you now,” she said. “Chances are you hurt your partner too and they want you to hear them.”
Cam was in a loving relationship with a partner she thought she would be with forever
People who are hurt often center their pain and push the other person’s feelings away.
“Put yourself in their minds and think about how you acted in the situation.
“I want you to really feel it, this isn’t just ‘putting yourself in their shoes’ – you really need to feel their pain.”
“And if you both do that, then you can finally get to a place where you can understand each other’s pain.”
Cam revealed that it would be easier to make amends and let go of old grudges if you really try to look at the issue from a different point of view.
“If you can’t do this, those recurring problems will keep coming and they will never be solved. The anxiety and stress will build until there’s nothing left for both of you to give.”
“Don’t let these stupid fights make you lose what you love most in the world,” she warned. ‘It is not worth it.’
Many others agreed with Cam, but admitted it was hard to put their feelings aside.
“Communication is very difficult, it’s come a long way, but it’s getting easier,” said one woman.
Another said: ‘This only works if they actively practice it too. Otherwise, you’re prioritizing their feelings over yours, which is definitely not going to work. Don’t ignore your own feelings to cherish theirs.”
“People say this is just empathy, but when you’re in a relationship it’s really easy to be selfish, it’s so important to remember this,” a third wrote.