Woman is slammed as ‘insufferable and rude’ after revealing she REJECTED her boyfriend’s proposal – because she ‘didn’t like the way’ he popped the question
A woman has rejected her boyfriend’s proposal after he failed to pop the question the way she asked.
We go to Reddit’s infamous Am I The A**hole (AITA) subreddit, the original poster or OP, mentioned her message: ‘AITA because you said no to my friend’s proposal because I didn’t like the way he proposed?’
The woman, 25, explained that she and her boyfriend, 26, had been together for just under three years and were expecting their first child next March.
She emphasized that she knew the proposal was coming, and that she had even worked with her boyfriend to design the ring, as he had always been “clueless” when it came to her taste in jewelry.
A woman, 25, asked Reddit if she had the right to reject her 26-year-old boyfriend’s proposal after she didn’t like the way he proposed
In the midst of all this, she was also “very clear about what kind of proposal” she wanted: namely one where her “closest friends and family” would be around to witness it.
However, that’s not how the friend’s attempt at a proposal went down — much to her disappointment.
She described taking their dogs two nights earlier for “an evening walk to the beach near our house, which we visit regularly.”
“We sat and admired the sunset while our dogs played in the ocean in front of us,” she says.
‘After a while he started telling me how much he loved me and how grateful he was that he had found me, and then he took out the ring box and asked me to marry him.
“It was completely unexpected and I was a bit shocked.”
Once she found out, she kissed him and told him how much he meant to me and how much I loved and cherished him, but that I couldn’t say yes right now because I really wanted my closest friends and family to share. the moment with me.’
After turning down the proposal because she didn’t like the circumstances, the boyfriend “became very upset and told me that he wanted to do something more intimate and keep the moment between us, and that he didn’t feel comfortable doing that in front of us.” of us to do. from everyone.’
The woman said she has seen many cases of people siding with women who became upset after receiving very public proposals, and perceived her situation as ‘the same’ (stock image)
Since she rejected him, he’s been giving her “the silent treatment,” she continued.
Although she claimed she got “what he’s coming from,” she added that since she had to “design her own ring,” she strongly hoped the boyfriend would go the extra mile when it came to planning her dream proposal.
“I really wanted my proposal to be something that he really thought about, to make it special for me,” she emphasized.
The woman rationalized her frustration by pointing out that she has “heard of countless cases where a girl has turned down her partner’s proposal because he did it in public and she wanted something private,” adding that “everyone always has seems to sympathize with her and her preferences.’
“The way I see it, this is exactly the same situation, but in reverse, so I don’t understand why what I did was so wrong. AITA?’ she asked.
Through nearly 3,000 responses, the vast majority of commenters agreed that the OP was the hole in the situation, writing “YTA” – or “you are the hole.”
‘YTA. And you are rude,” one comment began. ‘When did the proposal become a script? I mean, the way you built this up in your head, you should have just imagined yourself, since you had an exact scenario with specific people involved in a script….”
They concluded, “Sis, you really shot yourself in the foot here. A proposal is a one-time situation. He has been asked to marry you. The ship has sailed.
The vast majority of commentators agreed that the woman was at the center of the situation
“You had your proposal and you said no. It will never be as special as it was then, because from now on it will no longer come from the heart.’
A second agreed: ‘YTA. Is he going to propose to you or ‘you and your closest friends and family’? You could have just had an engagement party with them in a few weeks.”
Later in the comment, they added, “Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mean to be mean, but it sounds like you see yourself as the main character in this relationship. But this won’t end well.’
A third agreed: ‘YTA. You sound insufferable. You’ve micromanaged everything, and no doubt as a father you’ll micromanage him too. “I tried to reason with him” No, you are trying to manipulate him into doing something he is clearly not comfortable with. You hurt him by your refusal.”
The third person added: “You took away the meaning of the proposal because you decided you wanted it to be something for the audience. It should be about you and his love and commitment to each other, not omg, look at me, I’m being proposed to.”
A fourth chimed in: “I’m just curious about something. Why is the way you want it more important than the way he wants it? If you wanted to do it the way you wanted to do it, then you should have organized it and proposed to him with everyone around you. But he clearly says that he wasn’t comfortable doing it that way and wanted to do it more privately. Y.T.A.’
A fifth insisted: ‘I don’t blame the poor man for questioning his decision to marry you… that’s what the silence is about. You owe him a huge apology, YTA.”
A sixth echoed: ‘YTA. Engagement and marriage are a bond between two people, not a show for others. BTW (btw) You seem quite demanding, to be honest. The ring should be like this, the proposal should be like this… there are more important things in life. I’m just saying.’
To this, someone else replied, “Yes, OP seems to be trying to stage her life – that’s no way to live!”