Woman is disgusted by sex with her husband and questions whether she should let him sleep with a sex worker
My drastically low libido is ruining my marriage – and now my husband wants to sleep with a sex worker: “What should I do?”
- A mother’s sex drive plummeted after the birth of her children
- Her husband wants to consider an open marriage or hire a sex worker
A woman is torn between letting her husband sleep with a sex worker or demanding celibacy after her plummeting libido caused tension in her marriage.
After contacting Australian mummy blogger Constance Hall anonymously, the woman begged for help with her “unique” situation.
She revealed that her sex drive dropped dramatically after the birth of their children, but her husband still wants to remain sexually active.
The man recently suggested breaking up the marriage or finding a sex worker to satisfy his needs.
The woman admitted to feeling “physically sick” at the thought of her husband being intimate with another person, but wasn’t sure if she was being selfish.
A woman is torn between letting her husband sleep with a sex worker or demanding celibacy after her sex drive plummets after giving birth
“I don’t feel like sleeping with my husband,” the woman revealed in a after. “I still find him attractive and I love him very much, but since then [having] children I haven’t felt like having sex very often.’
The woman has only desired sexual intimacy “a few times a year” for the past five years.
She claimed that her husband was “very patient” and explored different tactics to increase her sex drive, but to no avail.
“He really can’t do anything because it’s not about him, I just don’t feel like it,” she said. “I don’t even masturbate and that’s fine with me.”
The mother then shed more light on their conversation about extramarital affairs.
“Last week he suggested a sex worker or sex outside of marriage to help him meet his needs and the thought made me physically sick.”
“It did make me want to sleep with him again, but I know my sex drive was driven by the thought that he was with another woman and that he will soon go into hibernation again.”
The woman wondered if she was being selfish and if she should just give her husband the go-ahead, even if it would break her heart.
“I’m trying to do the right thing for both of us, but I’m very confused about what that is,” she said.
The man recently suggested breaking up the marriage or finding a sex worker to satisfy his needs
Many were against her husband having extramarital intercourse.
“You’ve already answered your own question — you feel physically sick at the thought and it would break your heart.”
“Please don’t agree to something you disagree with just to please someone else.”
“You both have to be very comfortable with the concept or it will come back to bite your relationship.”
“I think your partner should be patient and accept you as you are now,” said another. “It’s hard for him, just as it’s hard for you in many ways.”
“It’s scary to find that elsewhere because it could lead to other relationships/insecurities – and I personally would never be okay with it.”
Others were open to the idea that her husband was looking for another partner.
“I wouldn’t mind if it were me, but I understand why other people would hate it.”
“It’s understandable that your husband would want to continue having sex, and in my opinion it’s not fair to expect him to close that side of himself.”