Woman who got divorced twice before the age of 35 reveals what really went wrong in her marriages

A woman who was divorced twice before the age of 35 has revealed what really went wrong in her marriage.

Leah Marie Mazur, now 41, was first married from 2008 to 2014 but discovered she and her ex ‘weren’t compatible’ before they split.

In 2016, the New York native had met and married her second husband, but again, things didn’t work out and by early 2019 they were divorced.

Leah said she had a “wake-up call” and focused on “practicing mindfulness, meditation, journaling and cultivating self-awareness,” which ultimately led to her having “the healthiest relationship.” had. [she’s] ever been,” with her now-husband of three years.

Leah said her past traumas, including losing her mother when she was just 16 and then her father five years later, led her to form unsuitable relationships.

She said: ‘I have no siblings and had to pick up the pieces by the time I was 21.

“Amid these tremendous losses, I found myself in an abusive relationship that left me even more broken.

‘I struggled with abandonment, low self-esteem and had no idea who I was.’

After her first marriage failed, she rushed back into dating.

Leah said, “Instead of taking time to heal, I jumped into another relationship to distract myself from my failed marriage.

‘We broke up two years later, and I was back on the dating apps, terrified of being alone, and afraid that no one would want me with all my ‘baggage’.

‘I met someone online, he moved in within three weeks and eight months later we were engaged.

‘It wasn’t enough time to get to know each other. I decided to leave.

‘My second divorce was my wake-up call. I knew I had to focus on myself and my healing.”

Leah continued, “The biggest misconceptions about divorce are that it means you’re selfish or a failure.

“That couldn’t be further from the truth. You are responsible for your own happiness.

‘If your marriage is negatively impacting your well-being, you need to do something about it.

‘It’s important to try to address your problems and concerns before you give up, which I have often done.

“But when you feel like you’ve done all you can, and nothing gets better, you should walk away.”

She knew it was time to look inward and focus on “self-healing” before seeking love again – something she now teaches her clients as a “divorce recovery coach.”

“I started practicing mindfulness, meditation, journaling and cultivating self-awareness,” Leah said.

“This helped me understand why I stuck with my marriage and made better choices in the future.

“I learned for the first time to love and forgive myself and to take care of my own needs.”

Now sharing her experiences in her work, Leah’s goal is to “help women heal and rebuild their self-esteem after divorce.”

She said, “During COVID, while working from home, I learned about life coaching.

“The more I learned, the more I knew this was my calling.

“I took online courses, became certified, and started my own coaching business, focusing on helping women through the divorce recovery process.

‘I knew exactly what they were experiencing: the guilt, the shame, the sense of failure and the loss of self-esteem.

“I wanted to share the tools I’ve learned and the mistakes I’ve made to help others find the light at the end of the tunnel.

‘It gives me so much meaning and makes everything I have experienced worth it.’

And Leah has offered some advice for divorcees preparing to get back into dating.

She said, “I don’t believe there’s an exact formula for how much time you should wait before dating again, but I do believe it’s important to understand your intentions.

“Are you dating because you’re lonely, bored, need a self-esteem boost, or afraid of being alone?

“Those are not the right ingredients to build a strong foundation in a relationship.”

“If you just feel whole and happy, and you want to date because you’re looking for someone who will add value to your life, then that’s a good sign that you might be ready.”

Leah has since found love again and has been happily married to her third husband as of June 2021, who has chosen not to be named.

She said: ‘I am now in the healthiest relationship I have ever been in because I took the time to focus on myself and heal my emotional wounds.

“I got to a place where I felt whole, happy, and fulfilled, and then we met.

“I believe we date on the same level as our self-esteem.

“If you know your worth, love yourself, and know what you have to offer, you will have higher standards, be stronger dealbreakers, and attract healthier partners.

‘It always starts with you.’