Woman, 30, who lived in a van for four years reveals how her unique lifestyle impacted her ROMANTIC life – from limiting sex positions to fit in the tiny space to keeping a ‘PEE JAR’ by her bed to use after she got intimate

A woman who lived out of a van for four years talked about how she navigates her dating and sex life while on the road.

Kaya Lindsay (30) has long documented her itinerant lifestyle on social media and built a following as a ‘van life’ influencer since she started in 2016.

Now, the California native shares wisdom gleaned from her cumulative experiences to answer the most ‘common questions’ she’s received about her love life in a recently published article for Insider.

‘Love, sex and relationships can be messy no matter your life situation. Things can get especially difficult when you live in a van,’ she wrote.

Kaya Lindsay, 30, who has long documented her itinerant lifestyle on social media, opened up about romance on the road

She went on to elaborate that while the headroom over the sleeping platforms in vans can be as much as five feet, some setups have as little as “a very snug” two feet of space between the bed and the van’s ceiling.

Speaking about the rather niche dilemma of navigating sex in a van, Kaya testified that ‘sex in a van is just like sex anywhere else, but with less headroom.’

She went on to elaborate that while the headroom over the sleeping platforms in vans can be as much as five feet, some setups have as little as “a very snug” two feet of space between the bed and the van’s ceiling.

‘The limiting factor is whether both people can lie comfortably in the space available to them. If they can’t, they will have to get creative,” she explained.

The cowgirl position, for example, probably isn’t going to be feasible in a van, she noted.

Back in a 2018 YouTube postKaya elaborated on the logistics of connecting with other road-bound travelers.

‘Meeting someone on the road and starting a relationship with them is really different. You get very, very close, very fast. You’re basically going to meet a stranger to move in with them,’ she said in the video.

“You never get space from this person,” she further emphasized.

Even if a new love interest travels in a separate vehicle, a romantically involved couple can expect to cook together, find bathrooms and places to shower together, wake up around the same time, etc.

“You never get space from this person,” Kaya stressed about the dynamic that occurs when a romance with another road-bound nomad strikes.

It was back in 2016 that Kaya first tried living out of her van while traveling the country

‘It’s really intimate. It’s not something you would normally do with strangers,” she said.

Since Kaya has always planned her road trips around various rock climbing destinations, she’s typically fallen into a ‘community of people who spend every day together’ – given their parallel travel goals – on her solo van expeditions over the years.

‘They climb together, they eat together, they sleep close to each other. And you’re parked very close, and so everybody knows everybody’s business,” she said.

‘And so if you find someone on the road you connect with, everyone will know. And you really don’t get any kind of privacy.

‘It’s a bit awkward – and besides, you’re in a van. The walls are thin. It moves. People are going to know!’

In the piece for Insider, Kaya advised that couples having sex in a van might do well to position themselves vertically rather than horizontally, ‘to reduce rocking and shaking’.

“Vehicles shake more if you rock them side to side rather than front to back,” she explained.

She also highlighted hygienic must-have items for on-the-go hookups, including baby wipes and a nearby jar to pee in after the act, thereby reducing UTI risks.

From the beginning of her van expeditions, Kaya planned her trips to reach various rock climbing destinations

In the past, Kaya has spoken about finding community among fellow rock climbing enthusiasts who have opted for a nomadic lifestyle for the sake of the sport.

Speaking about couples who were already living together before embarking on a life adventure from a van, Kaya admitted: ‘It’s great to have your adventure partner with you to share road music and admire the starry sky, but to be in a small living space and managing travel logistics together can also be very difficult.’

She added that she’s seen the setup work both ways, depending on the couple.

“For some people, this dynamic ends a relationship pretty quickly. For others, it helps reinforce the reasons why they work well together,’ she wrote.

Kaya — who calls Santa Cruz, California her home base — also addressed what to do to pursue your “of-life” dreams while dating someone who’s in a stationary residence.

‘My best advice is to try not to move into their driveway right away. When you live on the road, you can get used to a communal way of life, sharing campsites and having dinner with strangers in the area.

‘But remember: This is not how most people feel about their space. So, don’t be a mooch,’ she advised of the dynamic.

Meanwhile, if your partner is the one hitting the road and you’re in a home, Kaya emphasized the importance of being “comfortable with setting boundaries.”

She went on to reason: ‘You’re paying the rent or mortgage to live in your house, and they’re not.’