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A TikTok psychologist has given her a rundown of what your taste in men or women could tell you about yourself.
Francesca Tighinean recently completed her psychology degree at City University London and has been successfully modeling as a life coach ever since.
The London-based grad has gained a huge following by sharing her relationship advice on TikTok, covering a range of topics from how to attract a partner to how to convey confidence through body language.
In a series of videos, he explains what being attracted to certain people, such as older and younger potential partners, “bad boys,” and those who are “emotionally unavailable,” might say about your character.
Feeling attracted to older or younger people.
If you tend to go for older people, Francesca explains that the reason behind this could be rooted in your childhood.
“Being attracted to older people may mean that you are looking for a ‘father’ to take care of you because you have unmet needs for love and validation from your childhood,” he explained.
Meanwhile, for those who tend to seek out romantic partners who are younger than them, Francesca suggests that this could have to do with you taking on the role of a parent during your childhood.
“It could be because when you were a child you were the caregiver and you had to take care of your siblings or even your parents, and this makes you feel necessary,” he said.
Francesca Tighinean explains the possible reason why you are attracted to older people in one of her TikToks
Go for emotionally unavailable people
“If you’re attracted to people who aren’t available because they’re in a relationship or abroad, it could mean YOU have commitment issues because you don’t have to fully commit to these kinds of people.”
She adds in another clip that looking for people who don’t feel the same way about you could suggest low self-esteem.
“If you’re attracted to people who don’t like you, it could be because you subconsciously have the belief that you should fight for love and not just deserve it,” she said.
Jealous or overprotective people
“If you’re drawn to people who are overly protective or overzealous, it could be because you have unmet childhood needs to be cared for and protected,” Francesca explained.
He added that you might be “looking for an extreme version of that so that you really feel like someone is looking out for you and protecting you.”
“If you’re drawn to people who are overly protective or jealous,” says Francesca, “it could be because you have unmet childhood needs to be nurtured and protected.”
‘bad boys’ or ‘bad girls’
Francesca says that people whose type is a little rough around the edges can often be ‘too nice’.
“You’re suppressing your negative qualities like aggression or arrogance,” he suggests.
‘So you are unconsciously looking for someone to help you release that repression.’
People less ‘attractive’ than you
The psychology grad also had advice for people looking for people who are conventionally less ‘attractive’ than themselves.
She explained that this “could be because you have a fear of abandonment, so you chose someone who has a lower mate value than you so that they are less likely to abandon you and treat you better.”
Unsurprisingly, mate value refers to someone’s perceived “desirability” in terms of reproductive success and attractiveness, for example.
The psychology grad also had advice for people looking for people who are conventionally less ‘attractive’ than themselves.
toxic partners
In the latest installment of the advice videos, Francesca says that those who are attracted to “toxic people” might “unconsciously…enjoy the drama.”
“Chaos feels familiar because you may have experienced it in your childhood and you might even find normal relationships boring,” he suggested.
fictional characters
If your main crush is a character on TV or in a book, it’s a protection mechanism.
“If you are drawn to fictional characters, it may be because you idealize love and put it on a pedestal,” Francesca explains.
‘This is the thought of a child living in their imagination instead of doing the real thing so they don’t get hurt.
“But this way of thinking is toxic for you because love is not ideal and it has ugly sides and that’s normal.”
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