What your kissing style says about your personality

By William On Apr 1, 2023

By now you’ve probably seen the headlines of Harry Styles and Emily Ratajkowski making out passionately in Tokyo.

And it seems everyone has an opinion when it comes to kissing after fans were left unimpressed with his technique.

But what does your kissing style actually say about you?

Well, apparently a lot, according to one expert.

While there are no ‘black or white’ rules, Andrea Demirjianwho wrote Kissing: Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About One Of Life’s Sweetest Pleasures says someone’s make-out style can “definitely” reveal things about their personality.

Harry Styles and Emily Ratajkowski made headlines this weekend after they were caught on camera kissing passionately in Tokyo

For example, an aggressive kisser who isn’t afraid to use some tongue could be perceived as pushy or like to be in control, but it could also mean they’re very passionate, Andréa, known as The Kissing Expert, told DailyMail. com.

On the other hand, a soft-spoken snogger may like to be submissive or a “go-getter” outside of the bedroom, but want “someone else to take care of everything” in their intimate moments.

“What’s also interesting about kissing is that it’s so nuanced too, so with the fact that you can get a sense of people’s personalities, it’s not like [there’s] a black or white, hard and soft, who rules things,’ said Andréa from New York.

“What’s really fascinating about kissing is that the reality is that cavemen kissed to gather information about partners who were healthy to reproduce. Even then people were already using it, it was mainly functional.’

Andréa said cavemen would taste cavemen’s saliva to determine how fit they were to conceive.

“Coming into our modern world, kissing is definitely something where we can get a sense of someone’s personality, we can get a sense of their romance as a person or their skills as a kisser or lover,” she said.

Whether it’s an open or closed mouth, or eyes open or closed, the author has shared her insights with FEMAIL about what your kissing technique says about you.

Aggressive kisser: can be perceived as ‘pushy’ but can also just be ‘very passionate’

There may be more than meets the eye when it comes to an “aggressive kisser.”

Andréa Demirjian, known as The Kissing Expert, says your technique ‘definitely’ can reveal things about your personality

“One of the big things I hear a lot about is that when you first start kissing someone, you don’t necessarily want to French kiss,” Andréa told DailyMail.com.

“And sometimes when someone comes in hard and fast, you might assume that maybe they’re being a little pushy, maybe like to have the upper hand and be in control of the situation, or maybe they think they’re always right. again, I’m talking about generalities.

“But again, you don’t want to confuse it with them being very passionate, and tongue kissing can really increase desire and mutual pleasure.”

Andrea added, “MeIt can also mean that you like to actively kiss, that you like to hold someone, that you like to roll around.

“Maybe you’re just a straight forward, straight forward type, nothing wrong with that.”

Gentle kisser: Submissive and let someone else sit in the driver’s seat

A kiss with a gentle touch can be a sign that they like to keep a low profile when it comes to intimacy.

“What that means is…sometimes you just enjoy sitting back and letting someone else be in the driver’s seat,” Andréa told DailyMail.com.

“Maybe you enjoy being submissive or maybe you’re the go-getter outside of the bedroom.

“So when you’re at home, in the intimacy of your surroundings, it’s nice to let someone else take care of everything.”

Fuck off! Andréa’s top tips for being a good kisser

Oral hygiene is key

Good kissing starts with taking good care of your mouth, it’s your instrument, Andréa said.

She recommends that people brush their teeth and floss regularly because you want your breath to smell fresh.

“Oral health is the beginning of a great kiss,” said the expert.

Get rid of those chapped, dry lips

The same care you take on the inside of your mouth applies to your lips.

Andréa advises people to keep them hydrated and hydrated.

“I always say you don’t want your kisses to be based on a technicality, so make sure your mouth is always ready to kiss, you never know when a kiss might come along,” she added.

Be receptive to your kissing partner

People can always read your mood and get an idea of your energy.

If you’re open, easygoing, smiling, smiling, or your eyes twinkle, that’s a great invitation to kiss, Andréa said.

If you’re aloof or stiff, people don’t know how to read your signals, she added.

She advises letting people know you want to kiss them by touch.

Andréa said people start stroking their own hair, playing with their bodies – much like birds or animals parading and preening – to signal for a kiss.

Kiss someone more than once before you write them off

Sometimes when you kiss someone for the first time, the “shots” don’t go up, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you won’t be compatible, Andréa said.

The first kiss can be awkward for people, so give them a second chance, or even a third if you really like them, she advises.

Keep your eyes open or closed? Anyway intimate

There is always a lot of debate on this issue: do you keep your eyes open or closed when you kiss?

Andréa said a person who chose to shut down their peeps “might be a bit of a dreamer.”

‘[They like] to get lost in the kiss, they swim in that deep blue sea where time has no meaning,” said the author.

At the other end of the scale, someone who likes to keep their eyes open during a kiss may be more “curious” and happy to “drink any time.”

“Kissing with your eyes open and looking into someone else’s eyes is also very, very intense and very personal because you look deep into that other person’s soul,” Andréa told DailyMail.com.

“Maybe at first people would be intimidated by kissing with their eyes open because they don’t want that intimacy yet when they get to know someone, or maybe that’s a really good way to get to know someone, it’s intimidating because you get snatched away .’

There is always a lot of debate on this issue: do you keep your eyes open or closed when you kiss? (stock image)

Mouth open or closed?

A person who likes to kiss with his mouth open is often thought [to be] confident, they take charge, they are romantic, they are sensual,” said the kiss expert.

“And kissing with your mouth closed, convention [dictates], “Oh that person tends to make me more conservative.” But that doesn’t mean they’re any less romantic or intense,” Andréa told DailyMail.com.

“Sometimes the person who kisses with their mouth closed is very much a still water person, so if that kissing with their mouth closed is with someone special and you have that connection, [it] can really take your breath away.’

At the end of the day, Andréa said it always comes down to the person you’re kissing.

“When there’s that connection, or that chemistry and the pheromones, and the synchronicity of you and your life, and even the physicality of your lips mix well together — it doesn’t matter if you’re passive or aggressive, open-eyed or closed eyes, open mouth or closed mouth – that kissing is sublime,’ she said.

“I think you can really tell how someone feels about you when they kiss you, your kiss doesn’t lie, so you get a sense of that person’s level of attraction, caring or interest in you at the time.”

“They do say that when people have been together for a while, maybe they’ve grown apart or someone is watching or playing outside of the relationship, it’s generally about the kiss that you can tell something isn’t right.”