What is praise kink? Jana Hocking on the sexual fetish she loves the most

So there’s a sexual fetish doing the rounds right now and I’m all about it.

It’s terribly self-centered, a little narcissistic, and probably a little shameless to admit… but it’s called ‘Praise Kink’ and it’s been viewed a whopping 60 million times on TikTok, so obviously I’m not the only one picking it up.

The kink concerns people who cum when they hear how amazing they are (especially in the bedroom). So if you’re like me and get a little wild when your dude calls you a “good girl” while you’re doing it between the sheets… welcome, you’re part of the “nod of praise” tribe.

Other popular praise that people in this tribe like to hear include, “You’re doing so well,” “Your boobs look great from this angle,” “You’re so good at that,” and “Honey, you feel great.” Okay, full disclosure… that’s where I start, but so will others.

And it’s not just in the bedroom that we fellow ‘praisemen’ like to hear words of affirmation, oh no. Discussing it with a friend recently, she told me she got all horny and worried when a guy she went on a second date with literally stood up and gave her a standing ovation when she rocked out to their date in some killer attire . The praise was genuine, and the reward well worth the standing O.

I am lucky enough to enjoy this serotonin rush every time my interstate lover calls me beautiful. (Side note: eww ‘lover’ is such a rude word, but that’s basically what he is). Sometimes he just picks up the phone saying “Hello Beauty” in this deep, sexy voice that drives me wild. I turn into this big swooning mess. Why? Because I’m high on a nod of praise.

Those little moments of praise prove that your persona is focused only on you at the time, and who doesn’t love that? I mean come on, it’s actually like they worship you.

And I would go so far as to say that I think it’s a kink that everyone should embrace. We’re no longer going crazy for the guys who don’t text us back or play hard to get, no, we’re getting horny for the guys who love us. The ones who call us baby and make us feel like a million bucks. See you later bad boys, you’ll be 2022 soon. This year is all about the praising boys. Actually, let’s clarify that… praise men.

The best thing about this kink is that it doesn’t come with a consent clause, which we all know is super important when it comes to trying new kinky things in the bedroom. No, your only job is to show praise.

I was talking to another friend about it this week, and she said when she talks to her boyfriend about her day and he drops a casual “good girl” into the conversation, she literally wants to take all of his clothes off and pounce on him right there and then. I thought about it for a while and agreed, there’s nothing hotter than a guy who puts a little nod of praise into casual conversation. I remember a male friend did it to me once, and I looked at him in a whole new sassy way.

Those little moments of praise prove that your persona is focused only on you at the time, and who doesn’t love that? I mean come on, it’s actually like they worship you

I’ve also found that it’s ridiculously sexy to give compliments, not just accept them. For example, if you get all hot and heavy, compliment yourself. Watch your partner light up when you tell him he’s great in bed. Not only do they feel special, but they also put in more effort. Win-win I would say.

So if you want to try it yourself, start slow. Start calling them baby, tell them how good it feels when they do a move you like, or surprise them with a loving text. Or do like my friends date did, give them a damn standing ovation the next time you think they look hot.

Unlike other kinks, this one is super easy to do and doesn’t require any skills or special trips to an adult store. You just need a good vocabulary and the right attitude. Extra points if you’re a dude with a deep, sexy voice. Va Va Voom!