Transgender man who gave birth to his first child after promoting the joy of being a father

A trans father has revealed how he gave birth to his first child in 2020 after a a one-night stand after taking a break from a nine-year testosterone course.

Born with female reproductive organs, Danny Wakefield, 36, who lives in Seattle, presents as transmasculine, meaning he does not identify as a woman. They identify as non-binary and use they/them pronouns.

After deciding to stop using testosterone drugs two years ago, Wakefield suddenly found herself pregnant, an increasingly common occurrence among transitioning women in the US.

Despite identifying as male, Wakefield decided to carry on with the pregnancy, adopting the roles of mother and father simultaneously.

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In the two years since, Wakefield, who is also a recovering addict, has recounted his journey as a father, all the while preaching messages to more than a million followers on social media that even with certain sexual organs A woman can be a father.

“Just because I don’t feel like a woman, that doesn’t mean I can’t take advantage of the body organs I was born with,” says the father-of-one in a video posted to his TikTok, where they have nearly a million subscribers.

Wakefield goes on to state that even while taking testosterone and having a double mastectomy to appear more manly, they had “always wanted” to have their own child.

The father added that after finding themselves pregnant after a one-night stand with an unidentified man, they saw an opportunity to take advantage of this dream, and nine months later they gave birth to Wilder, now two years old.

“With the child in his arms, who, according to Wakefield, is also non-binary, the father affirms: I am Wilder’s father, I am Wilder’s father. I’m not Wilder’s mom, but I was given the gift of being able to carry my son, so I did it,” explains Wakefield, who sports a beard in maternity photos posted on his social media accounts.

Photos released in the past two years show Wakefield and Wilder’s journey over the past two years, with the couple at a glance resembling any other happy father and son.

The images from before Widler’s birth, however, are more out of the ordinary, when the heavily pregnant Wakefield was carrying the baby to term.

Wakefield recalled how during emergency room visits when they were about to give birth, they were he was met with “snickles” from nurses and “doubts, disbelief and lack of knowledge” from doctors at the Seattle hospital.

“In one case,” Wakefield recalled, it took them an hour and a half to get me treated because they didn’t think I was pregnant.

They added: “The doctors and nurses were talking quietly to each other, asking questions about me, rather than directly asking me, the patient sitting right in front of them.”

After finally getting the help they needed, Wakefield proceeded to upload her entire birthing experience to Instagram and set up a camera to record the event.

The photos show the heavily pregnant father sitting in a water birthing pool, capturing the when he became a father.

Prior to that, Wakefield amassed thousands of followers who have witnessed his journey, from the start of your process so far.

Now assuming the online pseudonym Danny the Trans Daddy, Wakefield gave birth to a healthy Wilder, who reports indicate was born as a boy. Wakefield has yet to associate any gender with the young man,

Growing As a child, Wakefield said they realized they were transmasculine a little over a decade ago.

Almost immediately, they transitioned, undergoing testosterone therapy and shortly after, a double mastectomy.

They explain in a video posted on TikTok: “When I really started to see myself, I was like, ‘Hey, I don’t feel like a girl, I feel more like a boy than a girl,’ so I switched genders.”

A proud father for the past two years, Danny extensively documents his life with Wilder, all while celebrating being a single father and raising awareness about trans people and their families, as well as the dangers of addiction.

“To be public about my pregnancy and my journey to parenthood, because visibility is so important, I wanted other trans and non-binary people to know that we can, and do, create really beautiful and amazing families, and there are so many different ways to do it”. that.’

That said, Wakefield’s hopes to create a culture of acceptance around male mothers are not unique and are shared by a growing number of transgender men who have retained their ability to give birth.

Tagged on social media as ‘Seahorse Dads’, the phenomenon is becoming more and more common, and that may be thanks to people like Wakefield.

Wakefield said of fatherhood: “The larger message that many visible trans parents hope people will receive is not necessarily about the trans experience, but more about the joy of being a parent.” I have fallen in love with myself.

They added: ‘I never imagined I would heal so much, just from being a father. I want to heal my own trauma so I don’t continue the cycles.

“Especially as a trans person, I have had this struggle, this internal struggle for much of my life. Being able to see those struggles start to turn into self-love is really beautiful. I owe all this to my son.