TRACEY COX reveals the eight steps that will lead you to multiple orgasms (and promises better climaxes even if you fail!)

By William On Oct 9, 2024

Just as many couples don’t bother having simultaneous orgasms, multiple orgasms aren’t appealing to everyone.

Not everyone wants or has time for the long, drawn-out sex session it usually takes to produce them.

But even if you don’t think multiples are your thing, doing the following will result in better orgasm quality – and who doesn’t want more of that.

Here goes…

1. How you breathe is important

Some experts say that holding your breath during an orgasm heightens the sensation, others say that starving your brain of oxygen forces oxygen-giving blood to flow towards it and away from your genitals. (Not good: you need a lot of blood in your genitals for optimal sensation.)

Continuing to breathe deeply during an orgasm is recommended by spiritual sex enthusiasts who claim it means you’re more likely to be able to have a second one.

While even more experts say that if you want to feel your orgasm over a larger area, you should start with regular deep breathing and then panting just before orgasm. Who is right? It’s all about what works for you, so try them all.

2. Know your anatomy

Most orgasms follow a similar pattern. But they vary enough between individuals to ensure that we all have our own ‘orgasm fingerprint’.

One theory about female orgasm is that there are two different nerves responsible for the two different ‘basic’ orgasms (clitoral and anterior).

The pudendal nerve goes to the clitoris and the pelvic nerve goes to the vagina and uterus.

Because the pudendal has more nerve endings, this could be why women have more clitoral than vaginal orgasms.

The two nerves overlap in the spinal cord – which could explain why women can have ‘mixed’ orgasms (clitoris and anterior wall at the same time).

3. Take control of what you can

Several factors seem to influence whether women have both multiple and vaginal orgasms: the strength of their PC muscles (more on that later), the sensitivity of their front vaginal wall (the part under your belly), and the motivation to to keep trying different stimulations and orgasms. triggers.

You have control over most of these factors – and a crucial one at that.

The more ways you can achieve it (via masturbation, oral, front wall, etc.), the more likely you are to have multiple orgasms.

Not everyone wants or has time for the long, drawn-out sex session it usually takes to produce them, says Tracey Cox (pictured)

If you have a (bad) habit of having most of your orgasms through the same means – your partner’s tongue, fingers or a vibrator – start switching them up.

Stop having orgasms the usual way and just use a different technique. It takes time to retrain your body, but it will happen.

4. Exercise

You know what’s coming. Yes, they are ‘cones’. An exercise routine for the muscles in your vagina.

The PC muscle supports the pelvic floor and ‘cramps’ during orgasm.

When it’s tight and fit, it works better, like the rest of your body: it pumps even more blood to the pelvis (great for arousal) and makes stronger contractions (yielding longer, more intense orgasms).

Yes, it’s another thing to add to the ‘to do’ list, but luckily the exercises only take a few minutes and you can do them anywhere.

Simply squeeze the muscle you are using to hold back the urine, hold for two seconds and then release. Do this twenty times, three times a day.

5. Practice peaking techniques

Peaking involves bringing yourself almost to the point of orgasm, waiting for your arousal to subside and then climbing back up.

This trains you to stay in a high state of arousal, following a ‘wave-like’ orgasm pattern, rather than one that starts at the bottom and steadily climbs higher.

Not only does this optimize the release of endorphins, which feels great, it also teaches your body to stay in a near-permanent orgasmic pleasure zone, able to orgasm again and again.

6. Take your time

The longer the action, the stronger the reaction.

There is good evidence that the strength of your orgasm depends on the duration of foreplay and other erotic stimulation.

Although most of us can masturbate to orgasm in just a few minutes (especially if you use a vibrator), it feels more satisfying during sex with a partner if you’re stuck in the ‘plateau’ stage (the stage after arousal and before orgasm) before you fall over.

There is good evidence that the strength of your orgasm depends on the duration of foreplay and other erotic stimulation. Stock image used

What is a multiple orgasm?

There is no official definition, but orgasms that fall into the following categories all qualify.

Consecutive orgasms: orgasms that occur in rapid succession, with an interval of several seconds to several minutes apart.

Consecutive orgasms: Orgasms that are spread out over time. You reach a climax, stop the stimulation for a moment and then build up to the next one.

Long lasting orgasms: You remain in a continuous state of orgasmic pleasure for a longer period of time.

Do women have multiple orgasms more often than men?

Yes. The reason for this is that we don’t have a ‘refractory period’: the recovery phase after an orgasm, when it is physically impossible to have another orgasm.

About 10-15 percent of women experience multiple orgasms regularly; between 30 and 50 percent say they have suffered from it at least once. Only five to ten percent of men report experiencing multiple orgasms.

7. Intentionally develop orgasm triggers

The more your brain neurologically travels a certain path, the more effortless it becomes.

Curling your lips upward signals your brain that you are happy, triggering the production of serotonin, a hormone that makes you both feel and look happy. The more signposts of an impending orgasm your brain can recognize, the more easily it will trigger the orgasmic response.

Focus on what you naturally do when approaching orgasm, and then overdo it. If you breathe heavier and faster, breathe even heavier the next time you’re about to climax. If you find yourself tensing your toes and throwing your head back, do so.

Reach the point where your brain thinks, “Aha! Deep, heavy breathing combined with flexing the toes means she’s about to have an orgasm. Then it’s better to get started and make it happen!’.

Do this and the orgasm becomes effortless and spontaneous.

8. Use a different stimulation for each orgasm

After your first orgasm, your body may become temporarily desensitized to the type of stimulation you use. If you have your first through intercourse, you’re more likely to have a second through oral sex than through more penetrative sex because you’re stimulating a different area.

A third could be achievable by masturbating yourself – it will be the hardest to get, so call in the expert (you).

Combining different types of stimulation is often the key to inducing multiple orgasms. Use a vibrator next to your partner’s fingers; add fingers to tongue stimulation. Anything that adds an extra erotic shock can do the trick.

Visit traceycox.com for information about Tracey’s podcast (SexTok with Tracey and Kelsey), her product ranges (sold through Lovehoney) and practical information about sex and relationships.

Why don’t multiple orgasms happen naturally?

This is true for some people – and it may be true for you too, at the beginning of a relationship when desire is very high.

As your bodies get used to each other, the hormones that make sex feel more intense begin to wane. Evolution has done its part: you’ve had a lot of sex with this person and hopefully produced a baby.

If one orgasm becomes more work for some people over time, having two orgasms is harder for just about everyone.

After you “take the edge off,” our nerve endings become desensitized, we are often emotionally satisfied, and our bodies begin to flood with hormones designed to make us believe that once is enough. While you may want to make love all night long, your body probably doesn’t.

Researchers from a German university believe that prolactin – the hormone linked to the production of sperm and breast milk – may flood the body after an orgasm, signaling the body that it has had enough.

When measuring hormone levels in women who were asked to masturbate to orgasm (don’t give up your day job, test subjects are paid a pittance), researchers found a rise in several hormones, but the rise of prolactin was the most dramatic and long-lasting . .

Because prolactin regulates dopamine – the neurotransmitter involved in controlling pleasure and pain – this wave may act as a kind of ‘off switch’, signaling to the brain that it is time to sleep rather than more action. to undertake. Since both sexes release prolactin, it is believed that the same process occurs in men as well.