Today host Hoda Kotb, 59, hints at the REAL reason behind her split from fiance Joel Schiffman – as she opens up about dangers of ‘romanticizing’ part relationships after going on her first date in TWO YEARS

Hoda Kotb appeared to allude to her ex-fiancé Joel Schiffman on Thursday’s episode of Today as she spoke candidly about “getting back with your ex” and “romanticizing” past relationships.

The 59-year-old TV host admitted to her co-host Jenna Bush Hager that “trying harder” when it comes to trying romantic relationships again “isn’t always the solution” because unless someone has changed, “it’s always the solution ‘. same story’.

Hoda previously had an eight-year relationship with New York financier Joel Schiffman, but the couple decided to split in early 2022 – and this week the TV host revealed she recently went on her first date since the split.

Discussing Camila Cabello’s comments about her second breakup with Shawn Mendes, Hoda said live on air: “The whole overarching theme of getting back to your ex, which we’ve all done over and over again… I think the funny thing is Unless someone changes it’s the same story. You just forgot whatever it was that didn’t work.”

The 59-year-old TV host pictured in 2018 with her former fiancé and partner of eight years Joel Schiffman

Hoda and Joel got engaged in November 2019, but unfortunately they had decided to part ways by early 2022

Hoda continued, “It’s like when you’re with your boyfriend, he gets on your nerves, you break up, and then he leaves for a month or two to go to college or somewhere else, and suddenly, all of a sudden, you can remembering that these are the good things.

“You’ve romanticized the whole relationship, so when he comes back you think ‘it’s different’, but it’s the same, it’s always the same.”

Jenna, 42, has been married to her husband Henry Chase Hager since 2008 and replied, “The second breakup is easier. I haven’t broken up with someone in a long time, but the older you get, the easier it is to make decisions like, “Hey, this isn’t working, so why are we going to force it because we like each other?”

Hoda, who was previously married to tennis coach Burzis Kanga for three years, then shared some insight into why her relationship with Joel may have failed, saying, “I think as you get older, you know more and more about what fulfills your life. cup and if not, you don’t want to put a circle in a square and say, “Well, if we had just tried harder.”

‘Optimists must realize that trying harder is not always the solution. Sometimes it doesn’t fit, so stop trying so hard. And sometimes it’s, as we say, riding the wave and sometimes you think, ‘this is too easy,’ but riding the wave is what it should feel like.”

Jenna agreed, replying, “Yes, riding the wave is what it should feel like, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t work. Like you’re riding the wave, you still have to swim ahead of the wave, you still have to ignore all the icks and just get on with it. But yes, you’re right: if you’re not happy, you’re not happy.’

Hoda discussed “getting back with an ex” with her co-host Jenna Bush Hager during Thursday’s episode of Today

When she announced her divorce from Joel in January 2022, Hoda insisted there was ‘no bad blood’ between them

During a recent appearance on The Kelly Clarkson Show, Hoda revealed that she was on her first date in two years

Hoda started her relationship with 65-year-old Joel in 2013 and in November 2019 she announced live on Today that they were engaged.

But on January 31, 2022, Hoda revealed on Today with Hoda & Jenna that she and Joel had decided to end their engagement and would focus on co-parenting as friends.

Hoda shares two adopted daughters with Joel, Haley Joy, seven, and Hope Catherine, who turns five next month, and when she announced their separation she insisted there was no bad blood between them, saying they were “better as friends and parents’. ‘

“Joel and I had a lot of prayers and meaningful conversations over the holidays and decided that we are better as friends and parents than as an engaged couple,” the talk show host said.

‘So we have decided that we will start this new year on our new path as loving parents to our admirably sweet children and as friends.

“It’s not like anything happened. They say sometimes relationships are meant to last a reason, a season or a lifetime, this was for a season.’