This is the ‘humiliating’ truth about Australian men, writes JANA HOCKING, and the one thing that turns them on more than anything

Controversial opinion: Men love to be objectified.

Before you scream in outrage and call the woke police, let me explain…

It all became abundantly clear to me this week. This realization even forced me to conduct my own personal research and I can say with 100% certainty that it is true.

As many of you may know, every Monday night I ask my Instagram followers to confess their most challenging secrets and then I repost them anonymously. It really makes for a rather boring weeknight and I can’t get enough of it. During my Saucy Secrets this week, I posted a man’s confession about his wife giving him oral sex during zoom meetings at work.

It read: ‘My wife is such a tease, she likes to walk around the house naked while I try to work. Last week I had a company-wide update to listen to and I find them boring. Not anymore. She gave me a blowjob. Camera and microphone were turned off. Best company update ever! (I) Later I returned the favor, b4 she went to work.’

I thought it was a bit cheeky, giggled and didn’t think too much about it.

Well, that was until my DMs started filling up with messages from men saying ‘dream woman’ and ‘where can I find a woman like that’. A man boasted that his wife grabbed his hand in a dark movie theater and made him do undeniably raunchy things to her.

Oh, and another said he loves it when his wife spanks his ass in public. It made me realize that men want nothing more than a touch of objectification.

I mean, here was a guy bragging about how his wife was clearly treating him like her personal sex toy while showing off her “exhibitionist” style, and he couldn’t get enough of it.

Could this be the secret to a happy relationship?

Don’t get me wrong: you don’t want to objectify men on the street. Sheesh, we women already know what it’s like to feel watched in public and that’s not fun!

But could a little objectification in the right context, say in a relationship, go a long way? I’ve seen ex-partners light up like a Christmas tree when I walked by and squeezed their butt, or brutally squeezed their biceps, or let out a “phwoooar” when they showed up on a date looking hot.

It all became abundantly clear to me this week. This realization even forced me to conduct my own personal research and I can say with 100% certainty that it is true

I have a certain male friend who loves nothing more than a “You up” text from me.

And I think the real reason why men are quietly confused by all this attention is because it seems rare.

We hear so often about their complaints about not getting enough action between the sheets. And their constant worry that their wives never want it, so when it does happen, they’re over the moon.

A friend said her husband almost went into cardiac arrest after she sent him a nude selfie out of the blue one day.

I also think this drive for shameless objectification is fueled by a lack of self-confidence. I’m very aware of my own shortcomings in that area, but I never really considered that men would experience this too.

That was until I got back with an ex-boyfriend after a very brief affair with a stocky, muscular football player.

The first time we did the deed after our reconciliation, he kept apologizing for his “dad bod” and joking too much about how he wasn’t “as fit as the last guy.”

I couldn’t have cared less about his dad body, it was him as a whole person who turned me on. So it took a lot of objectification to really rebuild him.

I have a certain male friend who loves nothing more than a “You up” text from me

I asked a close male friend if he felt offended by being objectified. He said: ‘The few times I have been objectified by women, I admittedly felt incredibly affirming and awkwardly complimentary.

“I think, ‘Wow, a woman still finds me attractive!’ If personal safety is not an issue, it is very humiliating to be considered attractive and desirable to the opposite sex.”

So I wouldn’t suggest walking down the street and spanking the nearest man’s ass, do you think it’s a bit va va voom, but maybe reach out to that special man in your life and give him a good old one.’ “Phwoooar, you look sexy AF” Next time you see him. He’ll love it!