A relationship expert who sparked controversy with her list of seven things men ‘don’t care for’ in a woman has shared the qualities they find irresistible.
Louanne Ward, a Perth-based relationship expert who has worked with couples for more than 25 years, says men don’t choose their partners the way women do and “what they value isn’t always what you think.”
“Let’s talk about seven things that attract a man and keep his interest. Not all men are created equal, so there is no one size fits all,” she says said.
“Some of these things may be less important to certain men, but there are things on this list that all men care about and need in a relationship.”
‘I think you know what they are. And don’t shoot the messenger…I’m just going to tell some truths.’
A relationship expert who sparked controversy with her list of seven things men ‘don’t care about’ in a woman, shared the crucial qualities they find irresistible
1. Your ability to be feminine
Louanne said this does not mean you are a ‘feminist’, but simply that you can stand in your ‘feminine power and your feminine energy’.
One of the surefire ways to step out of this energy is to start dating with the thought “I don’t need a man.”
2. How you look
This isn’t just about how you look physically.
“It’s the way you take care of yourself,” Louanne said.
“The way you take care of your home, the way you take care of your health, the way you take care of your home.”
3. Your ability to control your emotions
“Be rational,” Louanne said.
‘Being vulnerable is different from being irrational. Be able to talk about how you feel, instead of ranting and raving, blaming and whining.”
4. Your ability to be supportive
This is exactly what it sounds like: support their goals, support their dreams, support them when they need it.
5. Your sex drive
“I’m sure this isn’t a big surprise to anyone,” Louanne said.
6. Your ability to own your own things
This is simple: it’s about being able to admit when you’re wrong and apologize.
7. How caring and kind you are
“This is your ability to show your appreciation, your ability to give compliments, your ability to say thank you,” Louanne said.
“Of course this is just a very basic list and I’m not saying all men care about all of these things, but there are a few on there that all men care about.”
Louanne previously caused controversy with her list of seven things men ‘don’t care about’ when looking for a relationship.
“Men don’t care, and I’ll tell you exactly what they don’t care about,” she said.
1. Your academic performance
“I’m not saying he won’t be impressed with them, but they’re not going to help him decide if you’re a good match for him,” Louanne said.
2. Your busy social life
“Men don’t want to know how busy you are socializing and going places,” the dating expert revealed.
3. Your career success
The Perth dating coach revealed that, like their education, a woman’s career won’t help a man decide if she’s a good match for him.
4. Your financial status
“Your rich parents, or all the things you have, they don’t matter to him,” she said.
5. How independent you are
Louanne said that when a man hears the phrase, “I don’t need a man,” he usually settles down.
“Why wouldn’t a man want to be needed?” she asked.
6. Your social media and how many Instagram followers you have
The dating expert revealed that social media accounts are superficial aspects of a person’s character and don’t say anything specific about their personality.
7. Your designer handbags, designer shoes, or how much they cost
Just like her stance on social media, a person’s wardrobe is mainly a materialistic aspect of their personality that reveals nothing deeper about their soul.
Louanne previously caused controversy with her list of seven things men ‘don’t care about’ when looking for a relationship
Many were grateful for Louanne’s wisdom.
“You worried me there at first!” said a woman. “But at the end of the day, it’s very true… Caring and being impressed are definitely two different things.”
“I love your advice, this is nothing but the truth,” wrote another.
“This is so accurate, thanks for sharing,” a third added.
But others disagreed with her “controversial” views.
“Men only care if you respect them and how intimate you are,” one man wrote.
“I’m saying that the modern man does care about a woman’s financial status because he doesn’t want to take care of a woman financially,” one woman said.