A confidence coach has revealed the four sentences to say when someone is rude to you in public – and exactly how to gain the upper hand.
Gina Hatzis vows to put bullies and rude family members in their place, and believes sweeping insults under the rug leads to long-lasting resentment.
She recently provided some phrases you can keep in your back pocket for the next time you’re faced with a shocking situation.
Gina revealed that her tactic only works if you act as if the rude comment didn’t affect you.
The first step is to breathe and stay calm, letting your calmness, body language and tone reflect the nonchalance.
Gina Hatzis vows to put bullies and rude family members in their place, and believes rude insults under the rug lead to long-lasting grudges
She shared her advice in a video.
‘Here’s how to respond if someone says something rude to you, for example during a meeting or at a family event.
“You should calmly say, ‘That’s weird to say that out loud’ or ‘I’m surprised you feel comfortable saying that.'”
Gina also gave two other possible answers depending on the circumstance.
“You can ask, ‘Did you want to share that with the group?’ or ‘Would you mind repeating that?'” she added.
Asking the person to repeat their rudeness works twofold, because they either “repeat it and sound like a complete a**, or they don’t say anything.”
“Either way, you win,” Gina said.
Hundreds thanked her for the advice and vowed to remember it the next time a difficult situation arose.
‘I love this! I freeze when people are mean to me. Then I get angry later if I don’t say anything,” said one.
‘As a teacher, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You have no idea what we have to deal with from parents. I still love teaching, but the rudeness and put-downs are making me reconsider the job,” wrote another.
“I love having them repeat it because then they tend to reflexively spout nonsense and have a chance to listen to themselves,” one woman said.