Couples’ therapist reveals the 10 signs you’re in a healthy relationship – so how does your romance compare?
A relationship therapist has revealed the list of 10 telltale signs that you are in a healthy relationship.
Jeff Guenther, who lives in Portland, Oregon, has become a viral sensation on TikTok by regularly sharing his relationship expertise with his 2.8 million followers.
Most recently, he dished out the positive indicators of any romance, including interdependence and eenjoying ‘playful’ physical intimacy.
And dozens of viewers flocked to the comments section to praise his insight.
Jeff Guenther, who lives in Portland, Oregon, has become a viral sensation on TikTok by regularly sharing his relationship expertise with his 2.8 million followers
Most recently, he dished on the positive indicators of any romance, including interdependence and enjoying “playful” physical intimacy.
In the clip, which has been viewed more than 230,000 times to date, Jeff wastes little time making his observations.
“First, you know what your partner doesn’t like about you and that they have found acceptance in that,” he began.
‘Second, you can engage in co-regulation – so if one person is triggered, the other can act as a calming source that will help ground you.
‘Three, jYou feel most loved and super connected when you are your authentic self.”
The expert continued: ‘Fourth, you are interdependent on each other, which means you feel solid in the bond you share while maintaining a strong sense of self.
‘Five: You feel safe saying ‘no’ or setting a boundary, and you trust that it will be respected.
“Sixth, you know that if your perspectives on a specific event are different, they can be both true and valid.”
But Jeff didn’t stop there as he shared even more indicators of a positive relationship.
Jeff’s video was quickly flooded with comments, with many viewers in blossoming relationships themselves confirming his thoughts
He served: ‘Seventh, physical intimacy feels playful, safe, and confident.
“Eight, you can recover and reconnect after a fight and learn from the experience.
‘Nine, you will be challenged relationally and emotionally, which can be a little uncomfortable at times, but it is good for your overall development.’
And last but not least on the list of social media stars was that ‘yYou have the feeling that your partner sees you very positively.’
Jeff’s video was quickly flooded with comments, which included many viewers blossoming relationships themselves confirm his thoughts.
One person wrote: ‘I’ve waited so long to be able to say I have all this in a partner, and now I can finally say, ‘Yes I do.
A second person commented: ‘Happily married for seven years. These are absolutely correct!!!’
Another added: ’10/10 finally in a healthy, securely attached relationship.’
Other followers acknowledged why their previous relationships didn’t work out.
One person commented, “Looking at this all together, I can really see that my last partner didn’t meet those needs.”
A second person added: “Yeah, okay, I see where the last relationship went. Cold beans.’
Someone else simply wrote, “I realize I have never been in a healthy relationship in my entire life.