I’m a couples therapist – here are four red flag phrases that people use to talk about their relationships that indicate there’s a MAJOR problem

A therapist has revealed the four ‘red flag’ phrases that raise his concerns when someone talks about their relationship, as it suggests they are not being realistic about their romance.

Jeff Guentherfrom Portland, Oregon, has become a viral sensation on TikTok by regularly sharing his relationship expertise.

He recently posted a video to his 2.8 million followers in which he describes the different things people say when they talk about their love affairs, which from a therapist’s perspective are actually “red flags.”

The love expert explained why bragging about ‘moving too fast’ and ‘never fighting’ is a cause for concern when it comes to romance.

In a viral video, which has been viewed more than 97,000 times to date, he shared the four phrases he considered “red flags.”

He captioned the clip: “Four little warning signs that worry me when someone describes their relationship.

‘Number one: When I ask what they like about the relationship, they say, “The chemistry is hot and the magnetism is so strong it’s hard to explain.”

“It’s great to have an electric spark, but if you can’t pinpoint anything specific about why you guys are a good match, it’s a little suspect.”

Moving on to his second red flag, Jeff noted that it was concerning when a couple bragged about being “so different.”

He explained that while “diversity” can be “fun,” your differences are ultimately what you “fight” about and what separates you.

“Number three, when you say, ‘We never fight.’ Okay, who doesn’t say anything in the relationship? It’s probably everyone, but it’s at least one of you,” he said.

“You’re most likely avoiding uncomfortable topics, which isn’t good for working through disagreements, which is normal and healthy in relationships.”

Jeff explained that couples who couldn’t “negotiate” and “compromise” together often didn’t last.

Finally, the therapist said that couples who got into trouble early in their relationship were disturbing.

“When you say, ‘It happened so fast, it just felt so good.’ I mean, sign me up for all the whirlwind romance, they’re exciting, but you probably moved too quickly, which could mean you’re in the middle of a wave of infatuation,” he explained.

People flooded the comments, praising the therapist for his advice.

One person said, “I need an appointment.”

Someone else added: ‘I needed this. Glad I stopped.’

“Perfect as always,” one user commented.

A fourth person added: “I appreciate you Jeff.”