The ‘Tradwife’ mother of two lives like it’s the 1950s and says her role is to look after the children

A mother of two has told how she lives as a 1950s-style housewife and her decision to leave the office was inspired by feeling abandoned as a child.

Alexia Delarosa, 29, of San Diego, is part of a growing movement of so-called ‘tradwives,’ short for traditional wives, in which women live according to outdated gender stereotypes.

The Californian, who stays home to cook, clean and care for the children while her husband goes to work, said she adopted the stay-at-home mindset because her own mother wasn’t around enough when she was growing up.

She explained: ‘My mother worked and also enjoyed time away from our family home with friends. I have always wanted a more traditional model for my family. I loved the idea of ​​a 1950s style family life, where the wife stays home to take care of her husband and her children, and the husband goes out to work full time.

“I remember watching movies where women stayed at home cooking and cleaning for their husbands, and I thought it was a sweet, romantic life. She really resonated with me.’

While many women today juggle work and childcare, Alexia believes that an increasing number will switch to the stay-at-home lifestyle when they realize they can’t have it all.

When she started dating her husband, Matthew, 37, she made sure they talked about the kind of family and life they wanted from the start.

Fortunately, their visions aligned and they both loved the idea of ​​Matthew working full time and taking care of finances while Alexia would stay home and handle various duties and the afterlife.

Recalling how things progressed from there, Alexia said: “When I got pregnant with our first child, Archer, who is now two, we decided early on that I would stay home with him.”

“I had a part-time home baking business, but when I got pregnant with our second child, Arlo, one, I focused entirely on taking care of both boys, Matthew, and our home.

“I have always loved making the home and was more than happy to take on this role.”

Today, Matthew owns and runs a coffee shop, and works constantly, so Alexia makes sure everything is taken care of at home so he doesn’t have to worry or think about it.

She said: ‘Matthew has no duty assigned to him. I take care of all the chores and make sure dinner is on the table by the time he’s done working.

‘This is when we have a meal together as a family. I’m pretty particular about the way things are, so I like it that way, too.

“Matthew loves to be at work and I love to be at home taking care of things. We both thrive in our roles and this arrangement works perfectly for us.’

Alexia says that for life as a stay-at-home mom to work, it’s important to maintain a perfect routine.

Detailing what a normal day looks like, he says: “Our family is very routine oriented. I wake up between 5:30 am and 6 am to get ready before the kids wake up.

‘Once they’re awake, around 6:30am, I make breakfast for the three of them, and I love making things from scratch. Then I clean up and spend time playing with the kids around the house, sometimes we take a trip to the cafeteria to see their dad or go to the park depending on their nap times.

Then I make lunch, they nap, and during this time I do some laundry and decide what we’ll have for dinner.

‘When I wake them up from their nap, we play in the house, I cook dinner, do bath time, read their books and put the kids to bed at 7 pm Once they are in bed, I do one last cleaning of the house so it’s not a mess when we wake up in the morning.

Offering more insight into her lifestyle as a stay-at-home mom, Alexia posts regular updates on social media.

One of her latest Instagram videos shows her making butter from scratch, while another captures her whipping up crispy cinnamon toast for breakfast.

Since posting about her traditional lifestyle, Alexia says she often receives negative comments from trolls.

She revealed: ‘People like to comment to tell me that being a full-time mom and wife isn’t a real job.

‘Some people even tell me I’m turning the clock back 50 years.

‘However, I don’t let it bother me because I know the work I’m doing is invaluable and it would be very expensive if we had to pay someone else to fill this role while I go out to work.

‘It is very important to have a father at home who is always there for the children. She used to be a babysitter and I was there for so many special and cute moments with the children I was taking care of.

“It was such special moments and it made me realize that I wanted to be there for all these moments when I had children of my own.”

In an attempt to maximize time with her children, Alexia has decided to homeschool her children. She also believes that this will help keep them protected from negative ‘outside influences’.

Commenting on the decision, he said: ‘There are so many… things that can happen to them while they’re out of my care. It really scares me.

“For example, Archer had been at a party and playing with some kids, and when we were driving home, he was saying ‘you’re stupid’ and we never say words like that at home.

“It can happen so fast it’s scary, so I want to be there to guide them and make sure they’re educated the way we’d like.” We can keep control until they are older and can judge the characters for themselves.

The doting mother concludes: “I always knew there were things I wanted to do differently for my own family compared to my upbringing.

“I didn’t want my children to feel like they had to run away from home, and I wanted them to have confidence in the fact that their mother is always around and things are always fixed. I wanted them to have a stable and predictable home life.

I couldn’t imagine our family any other way.