The one thing almost every couple does that’s slowly killing relationships – but not everyone agrees
A husband and popular podcast host has revealed that the most popular pastime in relationships is actually a ‘silent killer’.
Jay Shetty, 36, is a British author, life coach and ex-monk who regularly interviews A-list celebrities on his podcast.
Mr Shetty recently said that watching television with your partner is the ‘lowest form of intimacy’ what you could ask for from any person’.
“Learning something with your partner will be more memorable than any time spent on Netflix,” he said in a post.
Despite this, most couples tend to spend ‘quality time’ together by watching movies or TV shows on the couch in the evening.
Speaking to Steven Bartlett, Mr Shetty said: ‘If you and I watch TV together for 200 hours a year, we may not be closer to each other than we were before.
“I felt like this pyramid of intimacy and entertainment was on the lowest rung of the ladder, but that’s what the majority of couples do.”
Mr. Shetty continued, “So if we just watch TV together, I promise you the relationship won’t grow.
“It’s actually slowly falling apart and you have no idea.”
Many strongly disagreed with Mr Shetty’s views.
‘I absolutely disagree. You’re losing me, Jay. In life you should do what makes you both happy, and honestly, TV has kept our peaceful relationship alive,” one man shared.
Another said: ‘My partner and I work very long hours, we have two young, energetic children, we are constantly on the road. Sitting together and watching trash TV is great, we love it.
“We’re in our ‘we don’t have the time or energy to be spontaneous and profound’ season. There is no right or wrong way to bond, there is no one size fits all approach. We can talk about our plans, our goals, laugh and hang out, all while enjoying snacks and TV!’
Mr Shetty recently said that watching television with your partner is the ‘lowest form of intimacy you can ask for with a human being’
But others claimed that ‘broadening their horizons’ was the best way to keep their relationship going.
‘We don’t watch TV, we camp, hike, journal, laugh, play like children, we love. I will bring more intimacy to the relationship,” one woman said.
“(Watching TV) is all my husband wants to do. That’s his way of spending quality time. I don’t find any value in it. I asked him to hang out with friends and family, go for a walk… and he just wants to sit on the couch,” one woman said.
‘I love walking with my partner, cooking together, planning trips, exploring future ideas!’ another wrote.
Some argued for a balanced approach.
‘It’s fine and feels good to do (watch TV), as long as you keep it balanced! “Nothing in excess is a good thing, and depending on the quality of TV shows, it can also lead to deeper conversations or closeness,” one person said.