Dear women turning 40, you are about to enter your sexiest decade yet. How should I know that? Because mature and curvy women was men’s top request when I was running my escort agency.
I slipped on the high heels when I was 37 to become Australia’s hottest escort. I spent 10 years getting to know men on a deeper level, more than the average woman.
And this is what became clear: men like mature.
The older I got, the more expensive I got. As the years went by and I hit my late 40s, I was charging $1500 an hour for my time and it was more in demand than ever. You would think the opposite wouldn’t you? Even I assumed I’d be past it…
Wrong.
At 37 I slipped on high heels to become Australia’s hottest escort – men love mature women
With my experience as a madam and escort, I quickly realized that the biggest myth fed to women is that once we hit 40, we shrivel up like prunes and should fade into oblivion.
That we become invisible and that part of our lives; the sexy part is over.
Well, I have news for you ladies – it hasn’t even started yet.
The first request I got from men who wanted to see my ladies was that they wanted women over 40, with curvy shapes.
A man called once, he wanted to book someone grown up and complained ‘all the youngsters just wanted sex’, while he was looking for something more, a dinner partner, someone to talk to. Another customer was tired of “table for one” in restaurants and wanted to book ladies who could pass as his wife, not his daughter.
When I was recruiting for my escort agency, a woman in her mid-sixties showed up for an interview, let’s call her Sarah.
Sarah was a granny with silver hair and glasses. She anxiously held a shopping bag containing new suspenders, stockings and sexy lingerie she had just bought.
My decade in the adult industry has taught me that women get sexier after 40, writes Sam X
She was round, very natural, with a warm demeanor, and escorting had always been a secret desire only her husband knew (and gave his blessing).
Sarah ended up being one of my busiest ladies with men of all ages, all demographics wanting to spend time with her. She was so successful that she has now become an independent escort.
Her secret? Sarah had no botox, she had natural breasts and body. But she radiated warmth, authenticity and confidence. Her age was not a disadvantage, it was an attraction.
Here are the top three reasons why men prefer adulthood:
1 – Trust
When people ask me what makes you good in bed, my answer always surprises them. It’s not about sex; how flexible you are, how dirty you can talk, what your oral skills are.
The most important factor that makes you feel good in bed is self-confidence – and older women exude that too. We’ve accepted our flaws, we know we’re not perfect, and neither are men.
Perfection intimidates men, especially young men. My escort outfit wasn’t a dress with heels and a face full of makeup. I was wearing jeans, a T-shirt and flat shoes. It was less intimidating. Older women are more relaxed in who they are, and therefore more relaxed. Men are nervous enough already.
2 – Life experience
There isn’t much an older woman hasn’t been through. Marriage, divorce, kids, affairs – you name it, we’ve probably been through it. In a previous column, I talked about connection being the number one reason men see escorts.
With an older woman, there is more to connect with. We’re not going to put our date on Tik Tok or sneakily scroll through dinner. When men invariably open up about their divorce or kids, chances are we’ve been there, done it, and a bond has formed.
3 – Older women know what they want in bed
Here’s something you may not know: men care more about your orgasm than theirs. Older women know their bodies inside out. They have lived in it for decades.
They know what turns them on and turns them off. And they know how to express it without being embarrassed or shy. There’s nothing sexier than being with a woman who knows what she wants – and that comes from years of experience.
Young men love being with older women because they are learning. Older women are great teachers.
It’s not just your maturity that makes you good in bed. I also learned a few other secrets that only escorts know… Tune in next time.