The friend I had to share a room with on a bachelorette weekend has dropped out – and no one can decide who should pay her bill

A woman has sparked a discussion about bachelorette party etiquette after a friend she was supposed to share a room with dropped out, leaving others to figure out who would pay her fees.

The woman went to the British parenting forum Mumsnet to explain that she was supposed to be sharing a room with her boyfriend and two others.

After one fell out, the maid of honor suggested that the occupants of the room share the cost between them, meaning they pay an extra £80 each.

However, if the cost were split across the whole group of women taking a weekend break to a European city, it would only be £12.63 each extra.

Many agreed that the cost should be shared equally among the entire group, while others said that the person who dropped out should still pay for her hotel room.

The message read: ‘Party of friends in a European city in 48 hours. It is the first of our group of friends to get married and we are all very happy and excited for her.

‘There are 20 people attending, and so the maid of honor has found a hotel where she can book 5 rooms of 4, the cost per room for the weekend is £960, which works out to £240pp.

“The bridesmaid chooses who goes into which room and did a perfect job, everyone is with their friends/family group and it worked out really well.

“We have to pay before the end of the month and have been given time to save, but one person in my room has now dropped out due to money problems.

She continued: ‘The MOH have said the remaining three of us sharing this room now have to make up the lost £240, so £80 each. This brings the cost from £240pp to £320pp for the three of us, with the rest of the party paying the same.

‘If everyone in the party paid the difference it would only be £12.63 extra per person. Would I be unreasonably suggesting this? I understand it’s our hotel room but can’t we look at it because the cost of the accommodation per person as a whole has gone up?

“Never been on one of these weekends, so I don’t know how these things work.”

Many suggested that the woman who dropped out should pay for her room anyway.

One person said, “Actually, the one who dropped out has to pay anyway, because she has let everyone down.”

Another agreed, “while another said, ‘The original person still has to pay, you can’t drop out after commuting and booking things.’

Others, however, suggested splitting the extra cost over the entire bachelorette party.

One person wrote, “I agree, costs should be shared fairly.”

Another said, ‘I would 100% recommend this, in no way would I expect three of the group to take on the full cost.’

Someone else wrote: ‘I’d just like to say you can’t afford/account for the extra money. What if someone else breaks out in another room – then those people have to pay an extra £80 each.

‘£12 each is so much easier and makes for more positive vibes at the weekend. Otherwise, I think you and a few others will quietly puke that the whole weekend is costing you a lot more.

While a fourth wrote: ‘Right now the organizer needs to get money from everyone. No refund possible. Otherwise, you open yourself up to this happening again.

‘Emailed to say ‘costs have increased by £12 due to an outage. We need the money now to avoid further increases’.’

The original poster added, “I totally agree that dropout should still pay but this won’t happen due to outing financial reasons which is still unfair and has caused a bit of a breakup.”

“But also as a best friend who tries to support their situation, because the financial problems were not expected and not their fault.”