Teenage boys should be taught about ‘bromances’ like the one between Sherlock Holmes and Dr Watson

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Boys should be exposed to “bromances” in English classes, such as the one between Sherlock Holmes and Dr. Watson, to foster close male friendships.

This is the opinion of an English teacher, who also believes that Frodo and Sam in Lord of the Rings are good role models for ‘bromance’.

Matt Pinkett, a teacher who challenges the “toxic masculinity” encouraged by the likes of influencer Andrew Tate, wants boys in school to embrace the “emotional openness” of close male friendships called “bromances.”

In a new book, he warns that the men boys encounter in school literature are not “great examples of male kindness.”

For example, Ebenezer Scrooge, for most of Dickens’s A Christmas Carol, is “a little stupid,” and Macbeth “kills a lot of people.”

Boys should be exposed to ‘bromances’ in English classes to foster close male friendship, expert has claimed (stock image)

Matt Pinkett, a teacher who challenges 'toxic masculinity', says Sherlock and Holmes are a good example of a 'bromance'

Matt Pinkett, a teacher who challenges ‘toxic masculinity’, says Sherlock and Holmes are a good example of a ‘bromance’

Many of the men in the GCSE curriculum are “tools,” he says – a term meaning an obnoxious or foolish person.

In his book Boys Do Cry, due out next month (SUBS – keep the name of the book), Mr Pinkett, an English teacher in Surrey, says: ‘To combat the profusion of masculine toolishness that pervades the GCSE curriculum, it is important that we expose children in key stages 1, 2 and 3 to texts that contain close, emotionally intimate and enriching male relationships.

“There are plenty of books that are chock-full of bromantic relationships. ‘Sam and Frodo. Holmes and Watson.’

The teacher, who gathered evidence from school staff, wellness experts and therapists, is encouraging teachers to make close male relationships the norm by complimenting male colleagues.

They should discuss barriers to bromance, such as fear of ridicule or people questioning guys’ sexuality when they’re in a close friendship.

The book also discusses how to discourage “bad chatter” between boys by teachers, as name-calling, ridicule and “verbal abuse” can make it difficult for young men to admit that they are struggling with a problem.

Mr Pinkett says teachers need to be aware of body image as an issue for boys, who are faced with “sun-kissed and statuesque examples of male bodily perfection on television shows such as Love Island” and social media influencers “whose abs have abs.” ‘.

He also believes Frodo and Sam in Lord of the Rings are good role models for 'bromance'

He also believes Frodo and Sam in Lord of the Rings are good role models for ‘bromance’

Bigorexia, an anxiety disorder that makes a person think they are too small or skinny, or that they are never muscular enough, can lead guys to become fixated on building muscle mass, exercising excessively with weights, and using anabolic steroids to gain weight.

The book advises teachers not to tell boys they “got shot in the summer” or say things like “I need some strong boys to help me take these books next door,” which could make some kids feel uncomfortable by suggesting certain body types. must be commended.

The book also suggests that teachers teach boys about “unrealistic” male bodies in advertisements, on reality TV shows and social media, which may have been digitally altered, and warn of the potential negative consequences of steroid abuse, such as hair loss, breast augmentation. development and severe acne.

Concerns have been raised about gym classes and sports in schools, which could lead to some boys being “ostracized and bullied for their lack of sports or physical skills”, while boys who excel at sports could become part of a culture where “toxic expectations of masculinity” are expected and encouraged.

The book discusses that boys who are told about problems by their friends are more likely to respond with humor, try to minimize the problem, or blame their friend, and so they may need to be helped to learn to listen.

On the role of teachers, Mr Pinkett said: ‘I’m not suggesting we should ever try to be therapists – that would never work.

“But the fact is, we face these kids for huge parts of their lives.

“If we can speak positively about male emotions and show ways to deal with problematic feelings, that would be a powerful thing.”

He added, “We need to teach guys to be nice, and that it’s okay to be vulnerable and emotionally articulate.”

CHILD BULLYING IS LINKED TO MANY LONG-TERM NEGATIVE MENTAL HEALTH OUTCOMES

Bullying can affect anyone; those who are bullied, those who bully, and those who witness bullying.

Bullying is linked to many negative consequences, including mental health consequences, substance use, and suicide.

It is important to talk to children to determine if bullying, or anything else, is a concern.

Children being bullied

Children who are bullied can experience negative physical, school, and mental health problems.

Children who are bullied are more likely to:

Depression and anxiety, increased feelings of sadness and loneliness, changes in sleeping and eating patterns, and loss of interest in activities they used to enjoy.

These problems can persist into adulthood.

Health complaints

Decreased academic performance – GPA and standardized test scores – and school participation.

They miss, play truant or drop out of school more often.

A very small number of bullied children could retaliate by extremely violent measures.

In 12 of 15 school shootings in the 1990s, the shooters had a history of bullying.

Children who bully others

Children who bully others may also engage in violent and other risky behaviors into adulthood.

Children who bully are more likely to:

  • Abuse of alcohol and other drugs in adolescence and adulthood
  • Get involved in fights, destroy property and drop out of school
  • Engage in early sexual activity
  • When adults have criminal convictions and traffic fines
  • Being abusive to their romantic partners, spouses, or children as adults

Bystanders

Children who witness bullying are more likely to:

  • Increased use of tobacco, alcohol or other drugs
  • Have more mental health problems, including depression and anxiety
  • Missing school or playing truant

The relationship between bullying and suicide

Media reports often link bullying to suicide. However, most teens who are bullied do not have suicidal thoughts or behavior.

although Cchildren who are bullied are at risk of committing suicide, bullying alone is not the cause.

Many problems contribute to suicide risk, including depression, problems at home, and trauma history.

In addition, specific groups are at increased risk of suicide, including black and ethnic minorities, lesbians, gays, bisexuals, and transgender people.

This risk can be further increased when this Cchildren are not supported by parents, peers and schools.

Bullying can make an unsupportive situation worse.