A grieving mother has shared her sister-in-law’s “ignorant and selfish” behavior at her two-year-old daughter’s funeral.
Melissa, 28, was devastated when her toddler died after a long battle with cancer.
The mother describes the aftermath as ‘the most difficult time of her life’ and has struggled ever since. She feels like she has lost “a part of herself” after the funeral.
Although she expected the memorial service to be difficult, she never thought her sister-in-law would be cruel enough to announce her pregnancy during the memorial service.
‘She didn’t make any big announcements, but more than ten people at the service ‘heard’ it and everyone was talking about it. To understate it, I was livid,” Melissa wrote on Reddit.
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Melissa recently found out she was pregnant again, and her family insists she throw a baby shower.
Despite wanting to celebrate, Melissa said she worried her sister-in-law would cause another scene at the event.
“I’ve been working on who I want to invite, and I really don’t want my SIL there,” she said.
“Besides what she has done, she is a vindictive and mean person and I can’t stand her.
‘I told my husband and he says he doesn’t care if she’s there or not. But to save face, I’d like opinions before I do this.’
She asked on the online forum whether she would be “an asshole” if she didn’t invite her, adding that she would still invite her husband’s other sister and her husband’s brother’s wife.
“The original SIL will be the only one not invited,” she wrote.
Many criticized the sister-in-law for her selfish behavior.
‘I wouldn’t want someone like that around me. Announcing a pregnancy at a child’s funeral is insane,” one person said.
“Shut her down and ignore everyone close to her. You’re right that you have nothing to do with her. She’s completely classless.’
But others encouraged her to have an adult conversation with her sister-in-law.
“Please let it go,” one woman said. “This happened on a terrible day at a bad time for you. It’s possible that this will cloud the way you look at this; she may not have been malicious at all.”
“Why do you want to stir up more anger, resentment and drama in the family? And I’m sorry, but I don’t understand the anger that news is going around at your daughter’s funeral?’ a second wrote.
“You said she made no announcement, that she didn’t draw attention to herself.
“She was at a family celebration, even though it was tragic, and she was talking to her family about what was going on in her life. Maybe it came up innocently, as if she was feeling nauseous, or showing up, or hungry.’