Singles reveal their turn-offs and deal breakers and when to tell a date they’ve given you the ick

From calling their parents “mom and dad” to chewing with their mouths open and “missing boundaries” when they go to the bathroom, Australian singletons share their biggest relationship “icks” and whether they can see past them.

In a after the She Said He Said Facebook group relationship expert Louanne Ward asked members what their icks — minor complaints that are an immediate turn-off — are.

The question sparked a lively discussion between men and women, with many saying they could look past minor turn-offs as constant fidgeting, but would end a relationship because of something “bigger” like constantly interrupting a conversation.

Louanne said common “icks” she heard from clients include picking his teeth at the table, open-mouthed chewing, snoring, a man shaving his armpits, and a woman calling people “dude.”

“Please, stop spinning bar coasters,” one woman added.

“And if they’re not coasters, they’re pens clicking on and off, or rocking on the chair,” Louanne agreed.

“Poor hygiene and grooming would certainly be at the top,” admitted a second person.

“Bad eating habits are my ICK,” wrote a third.

Another shared an unusual turn-off she sometimes sees when swiping on dating apps.

“Well, I think my biggest ‘me’ are pictures of men with birds (the feathered types) on their heads,” they said.

The relationship coach also told of a time she dated a man who “had no bathroom etiquette.”

“Despite repeated requests not to go to the toilet in front of me, not to go to the bathroom when the door is closed and not to facetime while he was on the toilet…. It gave me the s* **s after a while (excuse the pun),’ she laughed.

One woman said the decision to end a relationship “depends entirely on the illness” and she may overlook little things.

“If it’s something small, like chewing with their mouths open or calling their parents mom/dad, you can train it away,” she wrote.

“If it’s something more ‘serious’, like constant interrupting or a tendency to mansplain, I’ll take it out.”

Louanne recalled seeing a client “deeply in love” with a man because of his “free spirit,” but his little “icks” proved to be a sign of disrespect.

“After a while she felt that he arrived at dinner parties without shoes and going to the MIA for a day when he went to get milk from the corner shop was really a lack of respect,” she said.

“The itch of not wearing shoes … grew into a much deeper issue.”

One singleton said they can “tolerate” icks, except when their date is a messy eater and they watch out for “signs of character.”

‘How do they deal with waiters? Do their actions match their words? Do they often tell ‘little white lies’?’ she said.

“Yes, there are red flags in dating, but that’s not all I’m looking for because there are green flags too,” she added.

Many said that while minor issues can be overlooked, major turn-offs and deal breakers in a relationship should be discussed.

“I like that we’re not perfect. I don’t want to be exactly the same as my love. If I have non-negotiable affairs and she will have them too; then that’s a conversation to have,” said one man.

‘Shall I tell them? Depends on how long and how well we know each other. Two or three dates? No. I’d just say we’re incompatible. Longer term – yes,’ another replied.