Single mother of teenagers, 43, says she is ‘disgusted’ with herself because she ‘accidentally’ slept with a 19-year-old

A 43-year-old woman has revealed she ‘accidentally’ slept with a 19-year-old man and is ‘disgusted’.

The single mother of two teenagers admitted she thought the man she jumped into bed with was in his 20s – adding that one night stands are ‘very strange’ for her.

We go to the British parenting forum Mumsnetshe said that her friend told her that she was “exaggerating” the situation, but that she was worried about what others in her village would think if word got out.

Many rushed to the comments to leave their own thoughts, with some telling her not to worry about it, while others claimed it was ‘gross’.

The message read: ‘I did something so bad, and I’m really kicking myself for it.

‘I am 43, divorced and a single mother of two teenagers.

‘Last year we moved to a new village and I really tried my best to get to know people and make new friends.

‘I love fitness and have joined a circuit training group. This has also become part of my social life.

She explained that after a night out with her gym friends, she invited a few people to her house for an afterparty while her kids were staying with their dad.

She added: “The guy running the circuit training had some friends with him. He’s in his early twenties and I assumed they were about the same age.

“To cut a very long story short, after a few more drinks and a lot of flirting with one of the guys who were there with the circuit to become a leader, I ended up sleeping with one of them.

‘To me this is very deviant behavior. I’m 43 and haven’t had a one-night stand since I was 20.’

However, the next morning the man admitted that he was only 19 years old, which made her feel uneasy.

She concluded: ‘I’m truly disgusted with myself and can’t stop thinking about the huge mistake I made, which will definitely not happen again.

“I get along great with the circuit training leader and was talking to him about it last night and he told me I was thinking about it and just having some fun.

‘I keep thinking that if I were a man sleeping with a 19-year-old woman, people would get a very dark picture of what I did. Am I thinking about this too much?’

Many rushed to the comments to reassure the woman that she had done nothing wrong, as the teen was of legal age.

Taking to the British parenting platform, the single mothers of two teenagers admitted to jumping into bed with a man she thought was in his 20s.

Many rushed to the comments to leave their own thoughts, with some telling her not to worry about it

One person said: ‘He is over the age of consent. As long as neither of you were so drunk that you couldn’t give consent, I don’t see a problem. Actually, I think it’s good of you!’

Another added: “He is of age and now has a story to tell. You didn’t go out with the intention of sleeping with him and you didn’t ‘target’ or groom him, it’s fine. I’m not sure I’d tell anyone in RL.

‘My only concern is if your children are older teenagers and active in similar circles, but if not, don’t worry, let them experience it from now on and flirt with people in their thirties. (And I hope you’re not pregnant, that would be quite a can of worms to open).”

Someone else said: ‘He’s over the legal age, he’s an adult. I know what you mean about it being weird because I would feel a little blergh too, but what can you do now?

‘Don’t let it concern you any further. You didn’t do anything wrong x’

A fourth agreed: ‘You think too much. It’s not like you’re planning on starting a family with him. It was a mutual one night stand between two adults.”

Meanwhile, others branded it ‘sloppy’ and claimed that if it were a 43-year-old man and a 19-year-old girl, people would be much angrier.

One person said: ‘If you were a forty year old man sleeping with a nineteen year old you would rightly be called a sleaze.

Meanwhile, others branded it ‘sloppy’ and claimed that if it was a 43-year-old man and a 19-year-old girl, people would be much angrier

‘It’s not illegal, but it’s sloppy and people who say you don’t have to beat yourself up are typical mumsnet hypocrites.

‘How would you feel if your son slept with a woman old enough to be his mother?

“It’s done now, but as a parent of a 22-year-old, I can’t believe you didn’t know how young he was, especially since you have teenagers of your own. I mean, even your early twenties are grim, and again, if you were a man, MN would still be a dim view of it.

‘It’s done now, but learn from it. And I hope he doesn’t start bragging to his friends.’

Another said: ‘Ah, the ‘I thought they were older’ excuse. It’s fine here because you’re a woman, but men are creeps when they do it. It’s ‘taking advantage’.

Someone else said: ‘I don’t agree with all the people saying it’s okay because he’s reached the age of consent.

‘I have a girl who is 19 and would be shocked to think of her being with a man who is 43. I don’t think it is any different just because the young person is a man and you are a woman. I hope your own children are too young to ever get wind of this.

“Anyway, what’s done is done now and you can’t change the past. I don’t think it was right, but all you can do now is move on and not do something like that again.”

A fourth said: ‘Why was it ok in your early twenties? It’s still a bit weird. If it was a man, I’d say typical dirty old man.

‘Why don’t you meet some older people? Then you don’t have to be ashamed the next day.’