Self-proclaimed ‘sexual explorer’ reveals how you can boost your love life in the bedroom by following her ‘SACRED sexuality’ tips

A self-proclaimed sexual explorer has shared her advice on achieving sexual pleasure, saying her sacred sexuality tips can help you have better sex.

Hitomi Mochizuki took to YouTube with a video in which she said, “Personally, I believe sex is a skill.

“It's something we don't necessarily know how to do well, and we can continually expand our sex education and delve into making love as a practice and transformative tool in our lives for intimacy.”

“I believe there are so many forms of intimacy, but sex and making love is a language in itself,” she explained, before saying she would show followers what she practices regularly to increase sexual pleasure for her and her partners to optimize.

Hitomi says it starts with destigmatizing your own sex life, saying she often gets her friends to talk about their sex lives and share tips and their own experiences.

“We're constantly sharing our tips and things that turn us off or turn us on,” she explained.

“It's a really great conversation to have because we learn so much about different bodies, about different kinks, and just generally get a broader scope of how sex can happen.”

The sex-positive beauty said it was 'eye-opening' to normalize conversations about sex by talking about it more regularly with her friends.

“It will help to give you language so that you can have sexual relationships and feel more comfortable talking about them with them,” she added.

She then recalled several past situations where she had a lot of sex with her partner, but they neglected to talk about it.

Hitomi went on to say that there are many things to do with a partner, starting with dirty talk.

“You can guide the lovemaking session a little and tell them what you like,” she noted. “Really letting them know what your body likes and what you'd like to try with them.”

She said that if you and your partner feel comfortable, you can even share a sex story about things you really enjoyed.

“Sometimes that's easier than just explaining what your body feels,” Hitomi explained. 'Personally, I like to hear my lovers' sex stories.'

She added that it's also important to talk about the person's love language, especially when it comes to sex and initiating sex.

Then, Hitomi, who also has a large following on social media where she documents her travels, said it's also important to be comfortable with self-intimacy before showing off her favorite sex toy.

“I also think masturbating a lot makes you feel more available for sex and more comfortable with yourself,” she said.

She listed her tips, including singing out loud even if it feels “cringey.”

“I talk to myself about what I do and what I like,” she explained. “Sometimes I do this in front of the mirror and it really helps me a lot to do this in the bedroom because I'm so used to talking out loud about my pleasure.”

The sex-positive creator also spoke about lingerie, saying she used to wear it for other people, but now she dresses for her own comfort.

“I have 100 percent cotton underwear, which I really like, with a matching bra, maybe some lace and some thigh-high stockings, and that feels so good to me, it makes me feel really sexy,” she said.

Other things Hitomi enjoys before having sex is showering because it makes her feel more confident, having sex after exercise, and reading smut.

One tip she had for everyone is to be enthusiastic, stating that enthusiasm trumps technique.

'Like if you're really excited to share your body and please someone, [it’s] “I'm going to make love really good,” she said.

Hitomi then delved into the idea of ​​dirty talk and acknowledged that it's not for everyone.

She also suggested thinking back to times when you've had a particularly great sexual experience and always providing feedback.

“Ask a directional question so you know exactly what to do next, and then you can be obedient and do it right,” she said.

'Devouring' the other is also something Hitomi suggests, just like 'sucking fingers' and 'intense eye contact'.

“Kissing is a huge foreplay for me, but you can also lick and nibble all over someone's body, and not just the basic places like the neck and inner thighs,” she advised. 'Other places that are great for licking and nibbling are the collarbones and the stomach around the navel.'

Hitomi then described some of her favorite things in the boudoir and encouraged people to use visualization and intention in their sex lives.

“Having sex is nothing more than the energy that passes between the two of you, through whatever type of penetration or stimulation is taking place. You just feel the base of your spine with each inhale and with each exhale the energy is transferred from your sexual organs to theirs.”

Hitomi also listed some of the intentions she sets when she has sex.

“When I started setting intentions, like 'this orgasm will bring me bliss and abundance and joy into my body and make me feel so safe,” she explained.

“When I had that intention and I had an orgasm, I felt all those feelings,” she said. “So maybe you try that, like, my sexual energy is sacred, pure, and light-filled and helps power all my dreams. [or] when I have an orgasm, I am filled with lightness in my being.”

The sex explorer then shared her favorite sex positions and recommended experimenting with sex toys and using mirrors to enhance the experience.

Finally, Hitomi reminded everyone of the importance of aftercare.

“It's fun to think about the love experience, but tune into your partner and how much he or she needs,” she encouraged. “So ask your partner what makes him or her feel good after sex, and create your own little routines.”