Scientists reveal the surprising secret to a satisfying sex life
Whether it’s a charming colleague, a handsome waiter or just a gorgeous man at the gym, attractive men can pop up anywhere.
But don’t worry, guys – as long as your wife or girlfriend isn’t bored in the bedroom, you’ll be fine, according to a study.
Researchers have found that experiencing desire for other men does not necessarily have a negative effect on how a woman perceives her own relationship – unless she is sexually bored.
The study, conducted by a team from the University of Minnesota, involved 1,155 Portuguese women in long-term relationships lasting at least a year.
Most were straight and had an average age of 32 years.
Participants were asked online questions designed to assess their sexual boredom, sexual desire, sexual satisfaction and relationship satisfaction.
Sexual boredom was measured on a scale that assessed feelings of monotony – sameness – and a lack of stimulation in the woman’s sex life.
Analysis found that boredom in the bedroom was a stronger predictor of sexual and relationship satisfaction than desire for a partner or desire for others.
Whether it’s a charming colleague, a handsome waiter or just a gorgeous man at the gym, attractive men can pop up anywhere (stock image)
Don’t worry, guys – as long as your wife or girlfriend isn’t bored in the bedroom, you’ll be fine, according to a study (stock image)
It showed that women who were happy between the sheets were more satisfied with their relationship.
The scientists also found that when women weren’t bored in the bedroom, their desire for other attractive men had no negative effect on their relationship.
The authors told the PsyPost website: ‘We found that feeling longing for your partner is linked to greater satisfaction in both your sex life and your relationship, especially when there is little to no sexual boredom.
‘When it comes to attraction to others, sexual boredom is the main reason it affects satisfaction.’
Writing in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, they said their findings could help people with relationship problems.
“These results have important clinical implications, suggesting that interventions aimed at managing sexual boredom and promoting creativity and eroticism may help increase partners’ satisfaction and sexual desire,” they wrote.
‘Going forward, clinicians are encouraged to explore individual experiences of sexual boredom and tailor interventions accordingly to promote overall sexual and relationship well-being.’