How to get rid of the ick! Relationship Expert Paul C. Brunson Reveals 3 Steps To Getting Over The Things Your Partner Does To Drive You Crazy
- He talked about how to deal with the ick, even if you’ve been married for years
- People shared their ick online, including slurping food and talking while eating
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Relationship expert and Celebs Go Dating star Paul Carrick Brunson has revealed how to deal with the dreaded ‘ick’ in a relationship.
Today on ITV’s Lorraine he spoke to presenter Christine Lampard about the ick as they discussed an Australian groom on Married at First Sight went viral for his list of icks including: ‘girls addicted to their phones’, ‘motivational quotes’ and ‘star signs’.
Paul said, ‘The ick is whatever your partner does that makes you say “ughhh”! It’s disgusting, it’s annoying right?
‘Everyone has an ick. You can have a happy marriage, as I know you are Christine, must you have an ick?’
Presenter Christine Lampard then said: ‘Nothing that would make me go ‘ughhh’ but there would have been things before I got married that I would have been aware of. Like even simple things like someone not laughing with you.
Relationship expert and Celebs Go Dating star Paul Carrick Brunson talked about how to deal with ‘the ick’
“If you know someone who doesn’t think something you’re doing is funny, it would make me cringe, I’d say, ‘Oh, you’re boring.'”
Paul then said, ‘I’ve been married for 20 years, I definitely have an ick with my wife. She puts her cold feet on top of me when we’re in bed. It’s ughhh!’
When asked if you can overcome the pain at the beginning of the relationship, Paul said, “This is controversial, I believe you can get out of the pain.
“The reason a lot of people don’t is because you’re new to the relationship. So that’s why the desire hasn’t built up to wanting to work hard enough to get out of trouble.
“First you identify, is that a behavior that if they turned it off you would be turned on? Then you communicate it, and the next third step, the most important thing is you negotiate a behavior change.
Presenter Christine Lampard said her ick was ‘someone who doesn’t think something you do is funny’
‘That’s very important, because you want to be able to negotiate in a healthy relationship.’
Christine then asked what happens when an ick develops in a long-term relationship.
“Okay, so here’s the problem,” Paul said. “You want to use all those steps I just mentioned, and work without compromise. But if the ick has moved to a place of disgust and genuine contempt, then you need to see a professional.
“Because contempt is the number one reason why divorce happens. It’s that feeling of being superior to your partner.’
People on Twitter shared some of their icks, including slurping, making noises while eating, and talking while eating
People on Twitter shared some of their icks, with one person saying, “Slurpy slurping a cup of tea.” Why can’t people just eat and drink in peace?’
Another added: “Making noises while eating.”
A third commented: ‘I have a list but the top four, talking while eating, that funny saliva people get in the corners of their mouths while they talk, slurping soup/tea and commercials for toothpaste, I don’t want you brushing your teeth brush’ teeth.’
A fourth wrote, “Agreeing with everyone, having no opinion, gushing, stupid schoolgirl giggle.”