The word narcissist is often thrown around, but if you’re worried you have an unreasonably high sense of self-importance, there’s a simple test.
According to self-proclaimed relationship expert Jimmy Knowles, there’s an easy way to find out and it all starts with the questions a person asks themselves.
“You’re not a narcissist if you’re actually willing to ask your partner, parent, or friend, ‘Hey, what’s it like being on the other side of me?'” Jimmy revealed.
‘Do you feel like I respect people’s boundaries? Do I continually ignore the feelings or needs of others?’ he mentioned.
According to self-proclaimed relationship expert Jimmy Knowles, there’s an easy way to find out if you’re a narcissist
‘You’re not a narcissist if you’re actually willing to ask your partner, parent or friend, “Hey, what’s it like being on the other side of me?”’ Jimmy revealed
Jimmy, who went viral after he confessed in a video last year He cheated on his wife, but they stayed together, continued: ‘Am I only thinking of myself?’
“Because if you really care about any of those answers, you’re as far away from a narcissist as possible,” he said.
The content creator said that people often wonder what it means when you are rude to your partner and say or do things that are outside of the person you want to be.
“I completely understand that,” he assured viewers.
Jimmy added that “90 percent” of people who ask if they are a narcissist have a partner who “neglects and dismisses” them.
In another video, the social media star then addressed the question of whether a narcissist can change, and whether a person in a relationship with a narcissist can be saved.
“The answer to both is yes,” he revealed. ‘But it all depends on one essential part element: A narcissist will never change if he doesn’t see a real problem with the way things are.’
“For change to ever happen, they first have to actually admit that something isn’t working,” he explained.
Thousands of people commented on the post, many thanking Jimmy for his wise words
Jimmy warned that change won’t happenwill ever happen” if the person refuses to actually put in the time and effort.
“Intentions mean nothing,” he said.
“A narcissist can change – absolutely anyone can change,” he continued. “The question is, are they willing to engage in self-reflection and humility to admit that they don’t know everything and learn how to repair conflict and heal the damage they have caused through invalidation, gaslighting, lying or selfishness? ‘
Jimmy explained that the reason narcissistic relationships are so “toxic and damaging” is because one person is completely self-centered.
‘JYou can’t have intimacy or mutual respect or emotional security with someone who thinks he or she is superior to you,” he said.
Jimmy went viral after he confessed in a video last year that he cheated on his wife, but they stayed together
Unfortunately, Jimmy said the hardest part of dating a narcissist is what it takes to save the relationship – namely walking away.
‘The only way to save that A relationship is about showing them that you are actually willing to walk away,” he said.
“The problem with so many narcissistic relationships is that we can be stuck in a trauma bond and we don’t even realize that we have convinced ourselves that we need to fix or heal them with our love,” he added.
Thousands of people commented on the post, many thanking Jimmy for his wise words.
‘I knew it. Thank you for the clarification. A narcissist wouldn’t have even gotten past the first three seconds of this clip and would have scrolled to the next clip with an eye roll,” someone commented.
“I asked my therapist a few years ago if I’m a narcissist/psychopath,” another commented. “He said your exact words: ‘The fact that you ask this means you don’t.’
‘Honestly, this is an eye-opener! I’ve been so hard on myself, so good that I have this honest perspective,” said another.