A single woman was shocked when her date stood her up not once but twice in one night – and it could be a sign of an alarming new trend.
The woman waited for her date Adam, who she met on Bumble, at a bar where they both agreed before he claimed he went to the wrong place.
She drove another 20 minutes to meet him again, but he said he went home sick and made the woman feel like he was “done with online dating.”
Many thought the man might have taken part in a worrying phenomenon called 'Chadfishing', where incel men use fake photos to match with women on apps, set up a date they never intend to go on and watch as they realize they have been scammed. upwards.
The singleton, from Canada, explained that she had been chatting with Adam for a week after matching with him on Bumble.
A single woman was talking to a man named Adam, who she met on Bumble a week earlier. When they set up a date, he never showed up, leading many to believe he was 'catfishing'
'Eventually he asked to meet up, after a video call I agreed. The day of said date comes, I text him to confirm the location. He says 'great,'” she explained.
The woman said she would be at the bar before 9:30 p.m. and confirmed they were meeting at a bowling alley.
She arrived and was waiting in her car when Adam said he was a little behind, but when he said he was finally there, he was nowhere to be seen.
He said he was at another bowling alley and confused his date.
'Real?? I texted you earlier about the location and you said great!' she wrote a text to Adam before “giving him the benefit of the doubt” and agreeing to travel to his place.
However, when she arrived, Adam was again nowhere in the bar and refused all her calls.
'I'm going home. I was really looking forward to meeting you, but there is one thing I don't stand for and that is not being taken seriously. I wish you the best of luck on your dating journey!' the woman texted Adam.
He said he was at a different bowling alley, which confused his date, but she agreed to travel to where he “had a beer,” but again, he didn't show
Adam quickly apologized, saying he was in the bathroom at the time and felt sick. “I blocked him shortly after his last reply,” the woman explained
He quickly apologized saying he was in the bathroom at the time and felt sick.
“I blocked him shortly after his last reply,” the woman explained in a Reddit post after.
'I didn't let the night go to waste. I took myself out for a beer and a game of pool and met some great people.”
She said she “dodged a bullet” by not meeting Adam and that she would have preferred if he had been honest if he “didn't feel a connection.”
'I actually have little to no patience and the one time I decide to have some, this happens to me. Online dating is actually great,” she said.
Hundreds were shocked by Adam's actions labeling his as 'cowardice' and 'sociopathic', with some sharing theories about why he never showed up.
“I read that he felt it but never planned to follow through for whatever reason, like he's already in a relationship, he's ashamed of his appearance, whatever,” said one woman.
'Sounds a bit sociopathic if you ask me. Just why? If you're not interested, don't go so far as to just lie and mislead someone,” wrote another.
'What's the point of this? Why pretend to show up? It doesn't make any sense,” a third agreed.
Many thought the man was 'Chadfishing', where men use fake photos to match with women, set up a date they never intend to go on and watch as they realize they've been stood up
Many thought Adam never intended to show up to embarrass and harass his date, and other women said something similar had happened to them on dating apps.
“I think he was deliberately messing with you and probably never left his couch at home,” one user surmised.
“Maybe he was catfishing and didn't want to continue, or was he texting you somehow? Whatever the cause, the bullet was dodged,” replied a second.
“I doubt he was in either place. He was just fucking with you. There are a lot of garbage collectors around,” someone added.
'Chadfishing' is a new trend in which men create fake profiles and personas on dating apps using photos of conventionally attractive men to lure women in and start a relationship before they meet.
The 'sea fishermen' then arrange a date, which often requires long trips or expensive Uber fares, and watch as the nervous women try to meet someone who never shows up in an attempt to hurt and humiliate them.
They then often share the exchanges on incel forums where hundreds of other men mock, shame and insult the victims.
Incel stands for “involuntary celibate” and describes vast communities of men who blame and punish women for their lack of sex and intimacy.
Many women have fallen prey to the snares of bitter men.
A woman said she went to the trouble of putting on makeup and “tight jeans” to meet a man on Monday night, but he never showed up.
'I waited 30 minutes (which I think was overly generous) in a pretty dodgy area and heard absolutely nothing. I messaged him to let him know I was going home and still haven't had anything at all,” she said in a Facebook post.
'Why would anyone do this? We had been messaging for a few weeks and he seemed normal. I've never been rebellious before, so I can check that off the bucket list.”
One user called the man's behavior “alarming” and warned women to be careful when returning home after getting up.
“If this ever happens again, don't go straight home, he could have been following him or watching from a distance for other reasons,” she said.
“It's best to meet up with a friend or go to a family/friend's house, you don't want some creep knowing where you live.”