A psychotherapist has revealed the key to ’emotional freedom’ that will make you happier and save you years of therapy.
Dilyse Diaz, 54, runs a private therapy practice in Santa Clarita, California, and has more than 180,000 followers on TikTok, where she shares tips on how to “empower yourself.”
The mental health professional using the handle @dilysediaz_lmftwent viral after a ‘lifelong therapy in less than two minutes’.
“What would you do if I told you that I could give you something right now that would undoubtedly improve the quality of your life and any relationship you are in,” she asked at the beginning of the video.
Psychotherapist Dilyse Diaz, 54, from California, went viral after she delivered ‘a lifetime of therapy in less than two minutes’ on TikTok
The mental health expert explained that the key to ’emotional freedom’ is learning to control your thoughts and emotions
‘Will you listen and apply it? Or do you keep scrolling and stick around for another year.’
Diaz explained that you can change your entire life by “mastering your emotions” and “mastering your thoughts.”
“The way you do that is by never taking what anyone else says or does personally,” she said.
‘That’s the beginning. If you control the meaning you give to a situation, you can change everything.
“If you are offended, sad, or depressed and you say, ‘He makes me… She makes me…’ then you are not in charge of your thoughts. You have no control over your emotions because you are a victim of what other people say and what other people do.”
The psychotherapist gave the example of a friend who invites you to dinner and then asks you to bring most of the food.
Diaz said you can choose to be “super offended” and judge your friend for being rude, or you can control your thoughts about the situation.
She advised setting a boundary and taking care of yourself instead of being bothered by someone else’s expectations.
‘I can say, ‘No, I don’t feel like doing that. I’m not going to take everything with me.’ And then I can still have love for (my boyfriend),” she said. “I can still feel at peace in my body, instead of being offended.”
“The way you do that is by never taking what anyone else says or does personally,” she said
Diaz’s video has been viewed 5.2 million times and received more than 6,000 comments, but not everyone was convinced they could learn to control their emotions
Diaz said this technique can be used in any situation where you are upset by something someone else has done or said.
“Control your thoughts, never take things personally and experience emotional freedom,” she concluded. ‘You can be happy and independent of what anyone else says, thinks or does. That is freedom.’
Diaz’s video has been viewed 5.2 million times and received more than 6,000 comments since it was posted last year.
“Not taking it personally is very powerful. I’ve become very adept at it,” someone responded.
“As my therapist says, ‘Thoughts, feelings, facts.’ What do you think of the situation(?) What do you think about it, but what are the facts!!!’ another shared.
“I learned this three years ago (while) working HARD with my therapist, (who) was the best therapist I had, and my life has been different ever since,” someone else added.
Others became confused by the technology and did not know how to control their thoughts and feelings.
‘Tough because ‘someone makes me feel’ FEELS natural. I’m not sure how to control my emotions. Breath??’ someone asked.
“Haha sounds great.. putting it into practice 100% impossible,” another commented.
‘Nooooo not like that! Change your faith!’ Diaz replied.