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A life coach has revealed “extremely powerful” tips for making anyone “addicted” to you, from how to satisfy their personality needs to how to make their “spirit” obsessed with you.
french coachA resident of the US but originally from Romania, he studied psychology at the City University of London.
Now she has gained viral fame by sharing psychology advice with her 1.2 million followers on TikTok.
In her most recent video, the psychologist gave her viewers a ‘warning’ that what she was about to share was ‘extremely powerful’ before detailing how to make someone fall in love with you with the help of Tony Robbins’s Six Fundamental Human Needs.
Trainer Francesca, who resides in the US but is originally from Romania, has revealed “extremely powerful” tips to get anyone “addicted” to you.
She detailed how to make someone fall in love with you with the help of Tony Robbins’ six fundamental human needs.
Displaying the six needs on the screen behind her, the life coach shared that if “anything in our life manages to satisfy at least three of these needs, we become addicted.”
Then she noticed that by satisfying a couple or even all of your crush’s needs, you’ll make them swoon over you.
“Imagine this, what if you satisfy four, five, or even six of your crush’s needs? They’ll be obsessed with you,” Trainer Francesca explained.
Make sure you’re here to stay: Assure your crush that they “can count on you.”
Tony Robbins’ six needs include certainty, variety, meaning, love and connection, growth, and contribution.
Robbins points out that each person is uniquely shaped by their corresponding experiences and emotions, which means that these events create certain beliefs and values that correlate to our needs.
The first need, certainty, indicates that you require certainty that you will avoid pain.
From these life experiences, you learn to prioritize your needs differently from others around you, but all needs remain the same.
By meeting all your needs, you can achieve a positive balance in your life.
The first need, certainty, indicates that you need assurance that you will avoid pain and obtain pleasure.
According to coach Francesca, ‘certainty means being their support system.’
“They need to feel like they can count on you,” he explained.
With a fundamental need for certainty, you often need more reassurance, especially where your future is concerned.
To live a life filled with certainty, you want your partner to make you feel safe and secure while acknowledging that the connection is authentic and will continue.
According to Robbins, certainty is one of your primary needs if you are dependable, organized, enjoy planning, and tend to indulge in obsessive or even addictive behaviors.
To satisfy this need, discover new activities that push you a little out of your comfort zone with your crush, and add empowering routines to your life.
Be spontaneous! Variety can help someone fall in love with you
The second fundamental human need is variety.
The second fundamental human need is variety.
“Variety is about being spontaneous and adding a little spice to your life,” explained trainer Francesca.
Those who value variety first tend to take things to extreme levels and change jobs frequently or always jump into one relationship after another.
If you’re outgoing, always up for something new, lack planning skills, and tend to push people away, variety is most likely your first need.
To satisfy this need, seek out new information regularly and feed your brain and your crush’s brain with topics that interest you both.
You can also change up your exercise routine frequently, opt for a variety of dishes when you eat out, and attend classes with new people.
Make them feel valued! Make them obsessed with you by showing them how important they are in your life.
Those whose core need is importance tend to need validation.
The third fundamental need is importance, and it is about making your crush feel valued.
“Importance means making them feel important,” explained trainer Francesca.
If importance is your number one need, then you want to feel recognized and heard.
You value recognition and measure your success and value by comparing yourself to others.
Those whose core need is importance tend to need validation that they are special and valued.
Most of the time, if someone values this need more than others, if they don’t receive it, they will resort to other drastic measures to feel better, such as alcohol and drugs.
To fulfill a need for significance, tap into your competitive side and learn a new sport with your crush, try volunteering more, and fully commit to your profession or relationship.
Be vulnerable! Deepen your relationship by developing a strong sense of love and connection.
To satisfy this need, try to create a meaningful and deep friendship with your crush.
Another fundamental need of the personality is love and connection.
The life coach said, “The love and connection makes them feel loved physically and emotionally.”
If you value connection and love more, you are always looking for a relationship or partner.
You may even sacrifice self-care to care for or maintain relationships.
Love and connection are one of your top needs if you have strong social ties and have a hard time saying ‘no’. You also tend to trust others easily.
To satisfy this need, try to create a meaningful and deep friendship with your crush, communicate openly, and try to meditate.
Evolve together! Learn and grow as a couple so they swoon over you.
Those who value the growth of the six needs most strive to always learn more.
“Growth is that they need to feel like they’re growing and evolving in your presence,” coach Francesca said of the fifth fundamental need.
Those who value the growth of the six needs most strive to always learn more and improve in all aspects of their lives.
They tend to be good at everything they do, but move on quickly when they think they’ve reached their full potential.
If growth is one of your main needs, you tend to overstep the boundaries and are very independent. You also quickly walk away from relationships.
To fulfill your need, or your crush’s need for growth, challenge your thinking and learn a difficult skill, attend classes together, and meditate.
Return! Volunteer and make a difference in the community so they become obsessed with you
The last fundamental need described by Tony Robbins is the contribution
The last fundamental need described by Tony Robbins is contribution.
“The contribution is that they need to feel like they are contributing to your life,” said trainer Francesca.
Those who value contribution over other fundamental needs tend to do everything they can to make a difference in their community and opt for big projects, but often get distracted and forget to focus on those around them.
If you are extremely empathetic but easily burnt out or taken advantage of, then you most likely value the contribution more.
To fulfill this need, give your crush back or volunteer with them. Find something you both love and work on improving it.
At the end of the video, trainer Francesca detailed how you could avoid becoming addicted to someone.
“If you want to protect yourself against this, you have to replace the source of these needs with something else, so that the person no longer meets your needs,” he added.
“For example, instead of getting variety and adrenaline from the person, look for another source, like boxing.”