Psychologist reveals the biggest mistake people make when ARGUING with their partner – and what you should REALLY do to solve a fight
- Francesca Tighinean is originally from Romania but is now based in the US
- The psychologist and coach has amassed more than 1.3 million followers on TikTok
- She recently revealed the biggest mistake people make when they argue
A psychologist has revealed the biggest mistake people make when they argue with their partner, leaving them unable to find a solution.
Francesca Tighineanwho is originally from Romania but now lives in the US, studied psychology at City University in London.
She has since found viral fame by sharing a slew of psychological tips with her 1.3 million followers on TikTok.
In her latest video, the expert revealed the most important things couples do when they argue β and why some arguments never get resolved.
Francesca Tighinean is a psychologist who has revealed the biggest mistake people make when they argue with their partner, preventing them from finding a solution
In her most recent video, the expert revealed the most important thing couples do when they bicker: step into the role of a little child.
She captioned the clip, which has more than 14,000 views to date, with “#Relationship Advice.”
At the beginning of the video, Francesca said, “This is the biggest mistake people make when fighting with their partner.”
The coach then revealed that when people start fights, they “aren’t adults anymore.”
She explained that each partner will often step back into the role of a child.
Francesca added that from a psychological perspective, they become a “ten-year-old child.”
βThis happens because they feel like their needs aren’t being met, certain traumas arise, like fear of abandonment, or not being treated well, or whatever it is.
“So what you end up with is two little kids fighting each other,” the expert explained.
The content creator noted that this argument between “children” will continue because both partners feel like they need “all the attention to themselves.”
The coach then revealed that when people start an argument, they “are no longer an adult” and that the argument will only end when someone steps into the role of an adult.
People flooded the comments section, praising the expert for her tip
She noted that when they step back into the role of child, they are unable to “empathize” with their loved one’s “needs.”
Francesca added: ‘This happens until one of them is mature enough to step into the adult role and empathize with the other and provide what he needs, or is able to say, ‘Okay, let’s stop here. Let’s take a break, go to separate rooms to process and recharge and then come back and talk together from an adult space.β
She explained that if your partner can’t handle leaving until the problem is resolved, you should say, “Honey, I love you, but let’s talk about this tomorrow.” I don’t want to fight anymore.’
The next morning, Francesca recommends that you solve the problem like ‘adults’.
People flooded the comments section, praising the expert for her tip.
One person said: ‘Much needed video today.’
Another user added: ‘I love that view of fighting – it resonates with me.’