- Dr. Amanda Hanson said we shouldn’t act like ‘victims’ in scenarios
- She said this can hinder or destroy relationships with the people around you
- The psychologist said that it is important to always be the main character in your life
A psychologist has revealed a little-known habit that can cause friction in your relationships.
Dr. Amanda Hanson, psychologist and author, shared her thoughts in a TikTok.
In the clip, she talked about how the tendency to be a “victim” can be a deal breaker in relationships.
“We like to spend a lot of time on victim energy and blame,” Amanda explained in a video posted to her TikTok page.
Psychologist Amanda Hanson revealed a little-known habit that may be coming between your relationships
In the clip, she talked about how the tendency to be a “victim” can be a deal breaker in relationships
“Like, ‘I do everything for everyone, no one ever helps, I never have a day off,'” she summed up, using phrases that people in this situation often hear.
“That badge you wear and claim so proudly will be the downfall of you and all your relationships,” Amanda emphasized in the clip, urging people to “take back control of your life.”
“It actually feels like a burden to be in a relationship with someone like you when you’re always complaining.”
The psychologist then said that it was important to ‘take back the space’ to be the main character in your own life.
“While you’re caring for others, make sure you also make time for yourself,” she advised.
‘It’s actually the best way to safeguard all your relationships.’
Commenters shared their thoughts on Amanda’s wise words.
‘I’ve fallen into this trap so many times! I love this memory!’ one user commented on the video.
“That badge you wear and claim so proudly will be the downfall of you and all your relationships,” Amanda insisted in the clip, urging people to “take back control of your life”
Commenters shared their thoughts on Amanda’s wise words
‘Precisely!’ another agreed. ‘Don’t lose yourself or compromise, leave the useless partner b4 (before) it sucks (your) energy.’
They added: ‘Women are realizing that parenting shouldn’t be done alone.’
Others asked in dismay “how” about Amanda’s powerful video.
‘How do you carve that time?’ they asked urgently.
Some of the other advice was for those who just wanted to do a little better in the world.
“Be helpful to everyone without expecting anything in return,” one person wrote.
“The good will find you in another shape or form.”
Amanda often posts about self-love and empowering other women to stand up for themselves.
In another clip, she told her followers to stop “berating” themselves about the way they look, encouraging them to “decide” to feel beautiful.
“Celebrate your body and everything that is already there,” she encouraged her followers.