Psychologist Reveals 6 Destructive Behaviors That Ruin Relationships
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Are you sabotaging your relationship? Psychologist Reveals 6 Destructive Behaviors That Mean YOU Are To Blame That Things Don’t Work Out
A psychologist has revealed six ways you may be ruining your relationship: from not taking responsibility to trying to make the other person more like you.
Dr Lalitaa Suglani, a Birmingham-based chartered psychologist, shared the information in a mail on Instagram, where he has more than 110,000 followers.
In a caption accompanying her video post, the psychologist noted that “no relationship is perfect.”
He added that people often set expectations in their relationships (although they may not be aware of doing so), and these expectations can manifest in our behaviors.
Dr. Lalitaa continued: “When these expectations are not met, we can feel frustrated and disappointed, as it leads us to feel unloved and uncared for.”
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So we can feel like it’s not working, and it’s not this idea of ”true love”, and we want to end it without communicating and working through our expectations.
“We have to remember that the other person can’t read our minds and comes from a different upbringing.”
He explained that we often don’t realize that our behaviors are based on ‘our standards, our own ideals, our own terms that are formed from what we have experienced from our attachments and from the world around us’.
According to Dr. Lalitaa, the key word here is ‘our’, not yours.
She said: ‘We want the other person to meet our standards, ideals and goals; but we must also consider her own expectations of us and find a safe space to talk about them.’
Listing six behaviors that can ruin relationships in her Instagram video, Dr. Lalitaa started with not apologizing or taking responsibility.
The second behavior you mentioned among the list of six behaviors that can ruin relationships was not respecting the other person’s boundaries.
Another behavior that made the list was forcing the other person to change to be more like you.
Not being considerate of the other person’s emotional triggers was also on the list.
He joined being indirect about your needs, which is also said to be behavior that can ruin relationships.
And finally, according to the psychologist, I was comparing your relationships with those of others.
Writing in the caption, Dr. Lalitaa said, “These behaviors don’t just crop up in romantic relationships, they crop up in friendships, work, and family relationships as well.”
‘It is important that we can understand what we expect from others and be able to communicate it to deepen the connections we have with others.
‘Having a connection with someone links us to feeling safe and secure within our attachment.’