A psychologist has revealed why saying you’ve found ‘the one’ can lead to a toxic relationship.
Francesca Tighineanwho is originally from Romania but now lives in the US, studied psychology at City University in London.
She has since found viral fame by sharing a slew of psychological tips with her 1.3 million followers on TikTok.
In her latest video, the expert revealed why saying your loved one is ‘the one’ can actually destroy a relationship as it can lead you to enter a state of ‘obsession’.
Francesca Tighinean has revealed why saying you’ve found ‘the one’ can lead to a toxic relationship
In her latest video, the expert revealed why saying your loved one is ‘the one’ can send you into a state of ‘obsession’
In the clip, which was simply captioned “dating advice,” Francesca began: “How do I know I’ve found the one?” Let’s talk about ‘the one’ and what this concept represents.”
The love expert noted that while she knows many people believe it is “romantic” to refer to their partner as “the one,” it is also a “dangerous belief.”
‘First, it’s dangerous because it creates a false belief about relationships that all you have to do is find the right person and everything else will fall into place.
“All your trauma, all your dysfunctional coping mechanisms, all your baggage will magically disappear because this is the ‘right’ person, right? Wrong,” she added.
Francesca explained that those who believe in “the one” often wait for someone to “save” them.
“This isn’t going to happen, because happiness doesn’t start when you get into a relationship; this is how you create co-dependent, toxic relationships.
‘This is because you are placing your own value in the hands of someone else.
“And if they don’t see you as worthy or valuable, you don’t see yourself as worthy or valuable, which is a big problem,” she added.
The love expert noted that while she knows many people believe it is “romantic” to refer to their partner as “the one,” it is also a “dangerous belief.”
The psychologist stated that this concept is also “very dangerous” for people prone to “obsession.”
She explained that if you believe that your partner is the end all be all, it will be very difficult to let go of him when problems arise.
“This thinking actually feeds your obsession,” she added at the end of the video.
But this isn’t the first time Francesca has shared her valuable insights on dating and relationships.
She previously discussed the biggest mistake people make when fighting with their partner, and the six ways you can tell if someone is really in love with you.