A woman who married her husband while he was behind bars insists there is nothing strange about their unconventional marriage.
Despite being in prison, Jay is happily married to his wife Bleu, despite an encounter that was more reality show than fairytale.
“I married my husband over the phone in prison,” Bleu said on the YouTube series Love Don’t Judge.
‘We were married by proxy. We did our ceremony over the phone, so he called, we spoke, we did the ceremony, we said our own vows and then, voila, we were married.”
Bleu and Jay (pictured) met in February 2022 through a mutual pen pal from prison
Bleu explained that she was introduced to her current husband by a mutual friend of hers, who wrote to an inmate at the same prison as Jay.
The couple – who proudly say they are in a dominant-submissive relationship – were introduced in February 2022 by a mutual friend, who had written to an inmate living in the same cell as Jay.
After writing to each other through a prison pen pal service for a year, the couple decided to tie the knot – a decision she is happy with, despite her parents’ misgivings, which she says was a “huge fight” between herself and her mother caused.
“I stand by my decision to marry him,” said Bleu, who defended her decision, adding that her husband has served 11 years in prison so far.
“He has to do 15 (years) to be eligible for parole, which will be in February 2028,” Bleu explained. “If that’s denied, he’ll come back every six months after that, so there’s no telling how much time he has.”
“I didn’t grow up as a little girl thinking, ‘Oh, I want to be with a prisoner, that sounds so cool,'” the happily married woman said. ‘Wwhen (our friends) introduced us, i wasn’t there for it and I ended up falling in love with it.”
Bleu said that being a larger woman, she was nervous that Jay thought she had catfished him – she made sure to send pictures of herself from every angle, and he loved what he saw.
“I thought (our first meeting) was going to be awkward and it was the exact opposite,” she gushed. “It felt like I was looking at him for five minutes, and even without touching him, I could feel him.”
Bleu speaks to her husband on the phone several times a day, where they plan their future together – including three children and Bleu starting her own business.
After a year of writing together through a prison pen pal service, the couple decided to tie the knot, even though Jay was sentenced to 30 years in prison and her parents disapproved.
Bleu is happy with her decision to marry Jay despite her parents’ doubts, which she says caused a ‘huge fight’ between herself and her mother (pictured)
Although Bleu was worried their first meeting would be awkward, she said it was “completely the opposite.” Bleu is pictured here with Jay and his mother
Despite being happily in love, Bleu is constantly criticized by people when they discover that she is married to a man in prison
According to Jay, they are able to maintain their relationship because they “find a way to overcome it no matter what” and “know each other so well.”
Despite being happily in love, Bleu is constantly criticized by people when they discover that she is married to a man in prison.
“I understand the normal stereotypes that he’s using you for money; you have no self-respect; You are delusional,” she mentioned.
“I’m not naive about the stereotypes,” she continued. “I think the only reason I get the criticism I do is because I’m a bigger woman – because I’ve seen other prison women and they’re skinnier, prettier, more socially attractive.”
Bleu said they had rules in their relationships, including never discussing their arguments with anyone other than each other, not arguing in public and not going to bed angry.
Although Bleu didn’t say what Jay was imprisoned for, she said it probably “saved his life.”
“It’s not easy being a prison wife, it’s not for the weak,” she admitted. “If you want to hate it and talk about it, then do so, but it takes a strong, strong person to deal with this lifestyle.
“At the same time, as long as it’s with him, I’ll do it all again.
“Just because it’s him, I’m doing this. I’m not going to fucking do this again for anyone but him.”